It's that time again! Comment below by calling your shot for this week: What healthy, value-based action do you commit to doing this week to improve your life? And how did you get on with last week's commitment?

Catastrophizing is the word we use to describe getting stuck in your head imagining horrible outcomes for the future that are probably not going to happen. While they feel very reasonable, real, and likely when you’re drowning in these negative fantasies, statistically they’re extremely unlikely. This is not the same as planning for possible setbacks. There is no real planning happening here, just imagining disastrous consequences, with no thought given to how you’d actually handle these possibilities and survive them. So you know you’re catastrophizing when you’re a) imagining terrible futures, b) focusing on least likely outcomes more than most likely, and c) you’re not planning how to successfully navigate these things if they do happen. Why does this happen? Catastrophizing is a kind of mental misfire; an error in your brain’s code. It’s the combination of anxiety with imagination and hyper-fixation on threats. From an early age, or following some significant trauma, you got into a habit of worrying about worst case scenarios. The simple fact of repeating this process also validates it and reinforces it, so that nowadays you catastrophize simply because you always catastrophize. You’re somewhat addicted to indulging these negative fantasies. This unhelpful and pointless process occurs because deep down you don’t trust yourself, and you don’t trust the universe. You don’t believe you can handle unexpected things going wrong, and you assume bad things are more likely to happen than good things. So you’re left worrying about bad things happening and not being able to handle them. Your brain seems to believe that imagining things going devastatingly wrong, over and over, will somehow protect you from them. And yet, you never actually problem-solve. You only imagine the outcome, never your response to it. So catastrophizing feels important and necessary, even unavoidable, and yet it provides no value. You just sit there worrying and panicking, and it does not lead to improvement in your skills, helpful problem-solving, or better reactions to setbacks.

Most of you don’t need more insight, you need movement. I’m going to share something simple - It’s called the 3X Unstuck Protocol. I use this with coaching clients when they’re stuck. It's a structure for getting unstuck when you’re: - overthinking - overworking - or over-reflecting I turned it into a short practical guide you can download and use immediately. If you use it properly, you’ll take action within 24 hours.I Inside it shows you how to: - identify where you’re actually stuck (most people guess wrong) - force one clear action - stop overcomplicating decisions - stop being busy without progress - extract real lessons so you keep moving It’s basically the operating manual for when you know better but aren’t doing better. Use it once this week and you’ll learn more about yourself than from another 10 podcasts. Comment with the thing you're stuck with right now, and I'll DM you the PDF.

I would like to answer the question "How are you?" or something similar, honestly. I truly want to share how I am. But the truth is, most of the time I don’t know. In that moment, when someone asks me, I often can’t feel how I’m actually doing. During the day, I do notice sometimes that I feel good or not so good. But on the spot, when asked directly, there’s usually nothing there... 🙈 How do you do it when you honestly share how you're doing? Do you simply turn inward, and a feeling arises that you can share? Do you always feel something that matches the question? I’m currently practicing answering somatic questions through the body. And that often works. But how to feel how I’m doing on command, that’s something I don’t know yet 🤷‍♀️ Thank you in advance if anyone feels called to share their perspective on this.