Connection Has No Rules Only Signals this is the space where Sherry and I Dwell... Most of us were taught that connection is something you do right. Say the right thing. Feel the right amount. Be vulnerable but not too much. Need support but don’t need it like that. Those aren’t rules of connection. They’re rules of survival. True healing happens in a very different space a nervous system to nervous system space where connection isn’t negotiated, measured, or earned. It’s felt. Your nervous system doesn’t speak in logic. It speaks in signals. • I need to be held. • I need to soften without being fixed. • I need to be vulnerable without owing anything back. • I need presence, not performance. When those signals are met even quietly something profound happens: your system begins to reorganize itself around safety instead of protection. This is why connection doesn’t have rules. Rules belong to the mind. Connection belongs to the body. In a truth space of healing, nothing is transactional. You don’t share to get approval. You don’t open to be validated. You don’t regulate so someone stays. You are met because you exist. And when connection is no longer something you have to manage, deep love grows naturally not just toward others, but toward yourself. Love stops being a strategy and becomes a state. This is the work. Not learning how to relate “better.” But remembering how to stay when your system says, this matters. No rules. Only signals. Only truth. Only connection. Take a moment before moving on what signal is your nervous system giving you right now? A picture of me Daddy for at least a like for him! on his birthday this past Dec! Love you Dad!

all the things, milk, bread, eggs, chocolate, check. dog food, clean pajamas check comfort foods, board games, oracle cards and plenty of hot cocoa and marshmellows salt, and shovel.... where are you in the world and how are you preparing for YOUR weekend ?

I know that information from tiktok can be excessieve but sometimes you really come across new perspective. A girl on there suggested that instead of saying hard vs easy perhaps identify it like: familiar and unfamiliar. This definitely reminded me of connection - how your nervous system view the situation. That said, I do wonder what it's called when your nervous system is comfortable with chaos, even though you can definitely feel the tension?

If you were to lose everything that has ever happened to you—your memories, your successes, and even your name—what is the part of you that remains, and why are you afraid to meet it?

Soul Family! We’re here today to connect, share, and reflect. Whether you experienced deep connection over the holidays or felt a little disconnected, this space is for you. Ask yourself: - Where do you feel most disconnected right now your body, your emotions, or your relationships? - What do you need more of to feel connected safety, understanding, rest, honesty, or presence? This isn’t about fixing anything it’s about reconnecting with yourself in a way that feels honest, grounded, and sustainable. Your nervous system matters here. 💛 Take a moment. Breathe in slowly… breathe out slowly… and notice what comes up. You don’t need to explain, justify, or perform. Even one word is enough if that’s all your nervous system can give today. We’re building connection slowly, truthfully, and together. You belong here exactly as you are. 💛 Sherry & Lee