Lee Patterson

@Storm O-e What you're describing isn't a communication problem; it's a connection rupture that happened inside you long ago, where your voice was met with punishment instead of care, teaching your nervous system that honesty is danger. The way through isn't about finding better words to express hurt to others first. It’s about reversing the sequence: you must learn to connect with the hurt itself inside you, before it ever reaches another person. Instead of focusing on the relationship rule of "I must tell you how you hurt me," try this connection practice: Sit with the physical sensation of that hurt the tight chest, the heavy stomach and place your own hand there, breathing slowly, until the wave of feeling softens just 5%. That is you building agency. Then, when you speak, it won't be from a scared child handing someone a bomb, but from an adult offering information: "When this happened, I felt a shift in our connection. Can we look at that together?" This shifts it from blame to mutual repair. But here is the profound question you must answer first: If you were to meet your own hurt with the same compassion you're trying to have for the other person's guilt, would you even need them to understand in order to feel free? When you can be with your own pain without abandoning yourself, you’ll stop fearing theirs. That is where true connection begins.

Rachel Benham

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Send some Love

I don't usually contribute until I answer a question but I am in a very dark place emotionally right now due to a bad situation. I am feeling very low and vulnerable and a little scared I will end up back in a mental health respite unit . Please send me some prayer or healing whatever it is I just need to heal .🙏

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Lee Patterson

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I feel you, and I'm holding space for exactly where you are the fear(your thoughts that are about survival is what fear is), the vulnerability (your nervous systems home), the raw worry(mind noise) of sliding back into that darkness is completely valid. Thank you for reaching out through it. Right now, this isn't about roles or fixing; it's about two human beings sharing a moment of true connection. So let's do this together, right now, through this screen. Place your hand on your chest. Breathe slowly, and for just one moment, don't try to heal the storm just feel the warmth of your own hand. That’s you meeting yourself in the dark. I’m here with you in it. And that leads to the one question that matters more than any other: When you feel this low, do you turn toward your own heart with the same tenderness you’d offer a hurt child, or do you turn away? The answer is how you begin. If you’re reading this and realizing you want to learn that turn the move from self-abandonment to self-connection this is the transformational healing we do. You don’t have to hold this alone. Let’s walk this path together. Sending you unwavering presence and peace.

Lee Patterson

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@Rachel Benham is it scary or just vulnerable your mind tells the story and labels the action as such.. what if you just let yourself feel it all without the mind abandoning you!

Lee Patterson

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Connection Has No Rules Only Signals

Connection Has No Rules Only Signals this is the space where Sherry and I Dwell... Most of us were taught that connection is something you do right. Say the right thing. Feel the right amount. Be vulnerable but not too much. Need support but don’t need it like that. Those aren’t rules of connection. They’re rules of survival. True healing happens in a very different space a nervous system to nervous system space where connection isn’t negotiated, measured, or earned. It’s felt. Your nervous system doesn’t speak in logic. It speaks in signals. • I need to be held. • I need to soften without being fixed. • I need to be vulnerable without owing anything back. • I need presence, not performance. When those signals are met even quietly something profound happens: your system begins to reorganize itself around safety instead of protection. This is why connection doesn’t have rules. Rules belong to the mind. Connection belongs to the body. In a truth space of healing, nothing is transactional. You don’t share to get approval. You don’t open to be validated. You don’t regulate so someone stays. You are met because you exist. And when connection is no longer something you have to manage, deep love grows naturally not just toward others, but toward yourself. Love stops being a strategy and becomes a state. This is the work. Not learning how to relate “better.” But remembering how to stay when your system says, this matters. No rules. Only signals. Only truth. Only connection. Take a moment before moving on what signal is your nervous system giving you right now? A picture of me Daddy for at least a like for him! on his birthday this past Dec! Love you Dad!

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Lee Patterson

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@Rachel Benham human being connection an option?

Lee Patterson

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@Kristin Day What you’re feeling from your nervous system is the most important signal that whisper of "safety" isn't just a feeling, it's the fundamental instruction manual for connection that we've all been missing. We’ve been taught that connection comes from fulfilling roles partner, healer, fixer but real connection happens when two people put down those scripts and instead, simply show each other what’s happening in their nervous systems in real time. So here is a way to start: Sit with someone, in person or on a screen, and for three minutes, just breathe together in silence. Then, share one sentence that starts with "Right now, my body feels..." without any explanation or story. That’s it. That is human being to human being. It bypasses the rules and touches the truth. And that leads to the only question that matters: When you are alone, do you treat the whisper of your own safety as a command to be obeyed, or as a suggestion to be negotiated? The answer to that question is what builds every connection that follows or breaks it. If you're ready to practice connection beyond the roles, this is the transformation we do in root camp and connect me to me.

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Oh Happy Day :)

Please send positive energy to me today as I spend the day with my mom, actually send a lot more to Lee, because he has to be here when I get home from spending the day with my mom lol !!! What do yall want a free webinar on, give me something to ponder on :)

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Lee Patterson

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I will kiss your whole face when you come home!! I wuz you! Way to take one for the team😂🤣😂

Sherry Patterson

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Group Medium Reading With Sherry ! FULL SOLD OUT !

I am pleased to offer a group mediumship reading. The length of the session will be guided intuitively and will extend based on the number of participants, beginning with a minimum of one hour. Please ensure you are in a comfortable, quiet space. I recommend wearing comfortable clothing, having a blanket, and a drink nearby to help you relax. Settle in and be open to the messages that come forward. What to Expect: In my experience, spirit often connects with each participant, and most attendees receive a message. The direction of the reading is led by spiritual guidance. If you feel a subtle intuitive pull or curiosity about this event—especially if you have any hesitation about participating, or any fear—this may be your invitation from spirit. I am excited to connect and share this experience with you. I look forward to seeing you there. SUNDAY 2/1/2026 8 PM EST To Book go to the classrooms section here on skool , find the Group Reading with Sherry :) See you there ! THIS READING IS SOLD OUT! WATCH FOR MORE, OR BOOK A PRIVATE READING ! :)

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