THE PROCESS OF EMOTIONAL INTEGRATION: A PATH TO REALISATION
THE PROCESS OF EMOTIONAL INTEGRATION: A PATH TO REALISATION ( Patrick Boulan) When we face a difficult situation, a challenge, or a conflict, and this situation brings forth strong emotions or feelings within us, along with a high level of inner turmoil, it's most often because our nervous system reactivates energy charges corresponding to old, unintegrated emotions. When the nervous system activates in this way, it operates in "survival" mode, locked into its automatic response mechanisms to the perceived threat (primary responses are fight or flight, then the system freezes if we can't implement either of these options). In this activation, the intensity of the energy is so strong that it leads us to regress into older parts of our psyche – those wounded parts connected to the unresolved emotions we are experiencing – and to behave as if what these wounded parts perceive is reality. As long as we remain in this state of identification, we are trapped in cycles of action and reaction, where everything we do aims to suppress the activated emotions and feelings. Furthermore, identification leads us to believe that our emotions tell us something true about the situation (and for the mind, this can only be true since our feelings confirm it). As a result, the thoughts and emotions loop remains constantly activated and continues to fuel the emotion with energy, maintaining the system's activation. This prevents us from gaining the necessary perspective to recognise that the emotion speaks of the past, not the present situation. When these emotions don't activate, they remain latent, as if hidden, lodged in our body and energy system in the form of charges, tensions, and contractions. They will crystallise even in our cells, which then reproduce with this energetic imprint, thus transmitting traumatic memories from generation to generation. Generally, we are so invested in the activity of thoughts and in maintaining our personality structure that we don't consciously feel these emotions and feelings. Yet, we have an intuition of their Presence, as thought constantly processes this information, seeking its resolution in our relationship with the outside world. However, we often remain terrified at the idea of engaging with them, imagining that delving deeply within ourselves will awaken something bad and dysfunctional, causing us to sink or annihilate ourselves. These fears keep our attention fixed on the periphery of our Being: in the mental activity that creates and maintains the sense of personality and in the construction of the innumerable strategies and mechanisms that this personality generates to try to compensate for or keep all these memories at a distance.