It’s hard to change the perception of how people perceive you. Weather you were an addict, a scumbag or just a flat out dick, that becomes your “Brand”. That becomes what people perceive you as. But it’s up to us to change that..your story can be changed no matter how much people doubt you..Is it hard? Absolutely..and you’ll go through hard times in the process but to the ones around you that can not only see change but accept it are the ones you keep around you. For the ones who don’t see the change or accept it are the ones that only see who you once were and really you don’t want them around you..you gotta eliminate some people in your circle.

Maybe family court broke you down. Maybe eventually you stopped fighting. Maybe people called you a deadbeat because they only saw that part of the story. That doesn’t have to be where your story ends. You can acknowledge where you failed without accepting failure as your identity. Rebuild. Get healthy. Become present again. And when you can—fight your way back into your kids’ lives. Your past explains where you’ve been. It doesn’t get to decide who you become.

A birthday is literally just another day. The reason I hate my birthday is it becomes another day of reflection, whether I like it or not.😒

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When you show your in a vulnerable position you loose your credibility and trust. In today’s society when people see you as not the same person as you once were, everything changes. Now being vulnerable can land on all levels, from the tiniest bit to completely vulnerable. By showing this to people you become the “wounded animal of the pact” and everyone knows what happens then, you get eaten up or left behind. Now those things don’t happen in the “human world” but it’s similar.. Just because your showing vulnerability doesn’t always mean your not stable or don’t know anything, you could be just asking for help. showing vulnerability shouldn’t mean loosing your credibility or trust.,