ND attracts ND (and I didnโt realise how universal this was)
Iโve lost count of the number of times Iโve really clicked with someone โ easy conversation, depth straight away, zero awkwardness โ and then halfway through I think: ๐ง Hold onโฆ are you neurodivergent? They are! ๐ค Every. Single. Time. And when I started asking others, the response was the same: โYes. That happens to me too.โ๐โโ๏ธ Different lives. Different labels. Same pattern.๐งฉ Itโs not about diagnosis. Itโs not about being โsimilar peopleโ. Itโs nervous systems recognising each other. Thereโs less masking. Less explaining. More jumping between topics without apology. More honesty, intensity, humour, quiet, tangents, depth. It feels like relief โ not effort. And thatโs why so many ND adults look around one day and realise: their closest friends are ND, their partner is ND, their children are ND, their safest spaces are ND-led. Not by design. By resonance. This isnโt about excluding NT people โ itโs about understanding why some connections feel grounding and others feel draining, even when everyone is kind. โค๏ธ Once you see the pattern, you canโt unsee it. ๐ ๐ฌ Have you noticed this too? When you really click with someone โ does it usually turn out theyโre ND?