This plays into the concept that we are teaching people how to treat us every second of every day. I have often said " if we are getting treated like a doormat somewhere along the line we had to first lie on the floor" Silence Equals Permission. In the English language, to condone means to disregard, overlook, or allow something morally wrong or offensive to happen without criticizing it. When an objectionable action occurs and you say nothing, observers and the person acting both interpret your silence as a green light to continue. I understand it can be a bitter pill to swallow that we have also played a role in the shitty relationship, shitty workplace relationship, or any kind of relationship you care to mention. What do others think of this?