A lot of us keep correcting the meltdown, the attitude, the whining, the begging, and the disrespect that comes after we say no. But have we trained our children how to receive “no”? Because “no” is not abuse.“No” is not rejection.“No” is not you being mean.“No” is not the end of love. “No” is a boundary. And children need to be trained on what to do when they don’t get the answer they wanted. So instead of only saying: “Stop crying.”“Stop begging.”“Don’t talk back.”“Why are you acting like that?” Train the response. You can say: “I know you don’t like my answer. You can be disappointed, but you cannot be disrespectful.” Then teach them what to do next. 1. Name the feeling “I’m mad.”“I’m sad.”“I’m disappointed.”“I wanted a yes.” 2. Respect the answer “The answer is no.”“I don’t have to like it, but I do have to respect it.” 3. Calm the body Take a breath.Walk away.Sit down.Get quiet for a moment. 4. Try again with respect “Okay, Mom.”“Can I ask again another time?”“I’m disappointed, but I understand.” This is training. Not giving in because they cried. Not arguing because they begged. Not changing the answer because they got loud. Training. Because if our children cannot handle “no” at home, the world will not be gentle teaching it to them later. They need to learn: I can be disappointed and still be respectful.I can feel upset and still obey.I can want something and still accept a boundary.I can hear “no” and not fall apart. And parents, we have to model this too. When God tells us no, do we tantrum in our own way? Do we complain?Do we rush ahead?Do we get bitter?Do we stop praying? Sometimes we are asking children to handle “no” better than we handle it with God. So today, train it. When your child asks for something and the answer is no, don’t just drop the no and walk away. Say: “I’m going to help you practice receiving no.” Then use this script: “I’m disappointed, but I can handle no.” Have them repeat it. They’re learning emotional strength. Question for today:

Father, I’m going to be honest… sometimes I don’t feel qualified to be a parent. I question my decisions. I replay my mistakes. I wonder if I’m doing enough… or doing it right. But today, I come out of agreement with the lie that I have to be perfect to be effective. You didn’t choose me because I had it all together. You chose me because You trusted me with these children. So I silence every voice that says I’m not enough. I silence comparison. I silence guilt that keeps me stuck in the past. My qualification does not come from my experience. It does not come from my upbringing. It does not come from my performance. My qualification comes from You. If You called me to be their parent, then You will equip me to raise them. Where I lack wisdom give it to me. Where I feel unsure guide me. Where I’ve made mistakes redeem them. I will not parent from fear. I will not parent from insecurity. I will not parent from shame. I will parent from grace, growth, and dependence on You. Teach me my children. Show me how they’re wired. Give me patience for their process and compassion for their struggles. And when I get it wrong don’t let me run from You… pull me closer. I declare: I am chosen for this. I am equipped for this. I am growing in this. I am covered in this. My children do not need a perfect parent they need a present, praying, and submitted one. And that is who I am becoming. In Jesus’ name, Amen. Grab the full ebook Https://www.thejourneytofindgod.com/product-page/the-war-room

Kingdom parents, Every year on May 31st, we celebrate the Everything Parent Award in honor of Frances Marie Williams. This is not just another post or something we scroll past. This is a movement. My grandmother, Frances Marie Williams, raised me. She was my everything. She did everything, even when it was hard, even when nobody saw it, even when she had every reason to give up. And when I look at this community, I see her in so many of you. Parents who are tired but still show up, healing while raising others, carrying a past and still pushing forward, parents who don’t have it easy but refuse to quit. So on May 31st, we honor that. We honor you. This is how we’re showing up. You wake up intentional. Not rushing, not overwhelmed, not pouring into everyone else first. You get dressed, do your hair, get your nails done, put on something that makes you feel good. You take yourself out, whether it’s to eat, to sit in peace, or just to enjoy your own presence. You take pictures, real ones, proud ones, the kind that say “I made it through some things.” I will be sending out certificates to every parent who signs up, because you deserve to be recognized. Then we show the world. You post your pictures, you tag the community, you send them to me, and I’m going to share them so the world can see what strength really looks like, what resilience looks like, what “everything” really looks like. We celebrate everything else in this world. Now it’s time to celebrate ourselves. If you’re joining this movement, drop your name below. This is your moment. Don’t sit this one out. Because May 31st belongs to the parents who never gave up. In honor of Frances Marie Williams, let’s show the world what “everything” really looks like.

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I just got fussed out about this topic And I sat on it for a minute because I know this isn’t always a popular topic. But it needs to be said. There is no such thing as privacy in your house when it comes to your child. You pay the bills. You provide the phone. You provide the WiFi. You are responsible for their safety. So let’s make it make sense… Why does a child have more privacy than protection? Some of you are so worried about “trusting” your child… That you’ve stopped covering them. Meanwhile… They have access to Anything on the internet Group chats you know nothing about Conversations you’ve never seen Content their mind is not ready for And you’re just… letting it happen? Checking your child’s phone is not controlling. It’s parenting. You are not their friend. You are their protector. Because the world we live in today? It will expose your child to things FAST. Before you even realize it. And by the time you “find out”… it’s already in their mind. So no… There is no “don’t go through my phone.” There is no “that’s my privacy.” As long as they are under your roof… you have full access. Not to be messy. Not to be nosy.….. To be responsible. Because I promise you this… If something goes wrong… You won’t be saying “I’m glad I respected their privacy.” You’ll be wishing you paid attention. I had to learn this lesson the hard way.. Now I’m pray against things her friends introduced to her..