An emotion is something I experience. It is not a verdict of who I am. I can feel confused without being a confused person. I can feel lost without being lost. I can have an inconsistent day without being inconsistent. I can feel afraid without being incapable. I can have a bad day without being or labelling myself as a failure. I don't have to wait until I feel like 'her' to start becoming her. Learning to have Grace with myself.🤍

Ok, I'm going to be transparent. Since losing my husband and trying to find my feet, I felt lost and overwhelmed most days - nearly 9 months and I'm still trying to stay afloat. And ONCE AGAIN, things got too hectic and I stopped. I stopped with my pattern interrupt, BUT it somewhere on my TO DO LIST I still had it as a huge priority in the back of my head and I finally completed DAY4! Small, baby steps and I'm super proud of myself. (Even though it feels like the only productive thing I did today - apart from sending out some emails). I personally know how much AVA has helped me in my solo journey so far and I'm determined to finish it! After a recap of my first 3 Days of my Pattern Interrupt, this is my line and realisation: I’d rather risk disappointment than abandon my dreams and play it safe. There is too much at stake.

By now you've caught a belief and you've spotted where it hides. Today we go after the thing underneath both: whose voice is it, really? And Some of you might have touched on this already! While doing today, remember this: That belief running you on autopilot, you weren't born with it. Somewhere, someone said something, or showed you something, or made you feel something, and a younger version of you drew a conclusion to stay safe. Then that conclusion went quiet and started running the show without your permission. 👉Day 3 is where you find out where it actually came from, because a belief you can trace is a belief you can finally question.

I won't let the world or other people's opinions define me. I know my worth, and I am who God says I am.

I'm allowed to show up imperfectly while I become the best version of myself.