@Ria Strydom I love this one sentence: I can tolerate someone being disappointed with me....Read it next to what you wrote on Day 1, "my time matters as much as my client's." Day 1 you kept it even, matched, fair, because if it's fair nobody gets disappointed and you stay safe. Day 2 you just said the quiet part: you can survive them being disappointed. That's the whole thing. The "as much as" was never about fairness. It was about avoiding the disappointment. And you just told yourself you can handle it. 💥 So here's my question. When you picture actually taking your time back and someone being disappointed about it, whose disappointment is the one you feel in your body? Not clients in general, one specific face. Go find out who that is. That's the person the old pattern was built to protect you from.

@Trish Berrange "I stop proving, I let people decide." That's the behaviour shift, and it's real. Let me push it one degree though, because there's a tell in it. You've stopped proving, but you've handed the deciding to them. So the question underneath is still live: Why does someone else get to decide whether you're enough? What happens inside you in the gap between telling them and them deciding? That gap is where the old belief still lives.🤗

@Netta Nortje I love that you jumped in, this is exactly the kind of person this space needs. Here's the thing I'd offer you both: It is exhausting to keep proving, you're right. But the real freedom isn't "tell them and let them decide." It's getting to the place where their decision doesn't change what you already know about yourself. That's the version where the exhaustion actually ends. Right now the plan still leaves the verdict with them. What would it take to hold the verdict yourself? Hmmm🤔

YES!!!! SPEAK IT! Repeatedly. Replacing the lies with the truth, so your subconscious becomes familiar with the new truth!

@Candice Sanchez Up to you, but I'd suggest you start on Monday...you are not losing out at all. You can already do your brain dumps and re-connect with AVA😉 and then Monday, we start the 7 days together👊

@Maritza Saayman, thank you for the honesty in this, it's not a small thing to write that sentence down where people can see it. So let me meet it with the same honesty. Read what you wrote: if I'm not strong and capable, I won't be worthy of love and acceptance. That's not a Day 1 belief you're catching from a distance. That's the whole engine, right out loud. The strength isn't who you are, it's the price you've been paying to be allowed to be loved. Which means somewhere you learned that love was conditional, that it had to be earned by performing strength, and being simply human wasn't enough to qualify. Here's my question, and then I want you to take it somewhere private, not answer it here: who taught you that love had to be earned? Whose acceptance did you have to be strong and capable to keep? Open AVA and tell her you want to do a brain dump, and share exactly what you did above. Let her walk you into it, gently. And here's the part I want to protect for you: don't only dig into where the belief came from. Ask AVA the other question too, were you ever loved when you weren't being strong? Even once? Because if the answer is yes, even a single time, then the belief was never true, it was just installed. You want to leave that session having found the exception, not just the origin. Come back and tell us what shifted, only what you're comfortable sharing.👊 I'm so proud of you! Tomorrow when you are ready for the next day, simply type: Day 2, and she'll pick up where you left off.