@Maritza Saayman Im just attending a wedding and I'm out of town. Will respond to your day 6 as soon as I get a chance🫶

@Maritza Saayman Before a single word about the exercise, I want to acknowledge what you just trusted this space with. Your husband died by suicide. That is one of the heaviest losses a person can carry, and the fact that you're standing here ten months later, grieving that, and still choosing to reach for your own life, tells me something about your strength that no mindset exercise ever could. Thank you for letting us hold it with you. You should not have to carry it alone, and I hope with everything in me that you have real people around you, and real support, holding you through it. Now I want to witness what you did in this post, because it is extraordinary, and I don't use that word lightly. You wrote: "my husband's suicide is part of his story, and only a segment of my story. It was a chapter of my life written for me, without my approval or knowledge. I still get to write the rest of my story and how it ends. But I can also choose to make his story my entire story? If that makes sense." It makes complete sense. And it is one of the most important things a person in your position can ever come to see. What happened was written into your life without your consent, you're right, you didn't approve it, you didn't choose it, it was done to your story from the outside. That is the cruelty of it. But you've just drawn the line that grief desperately needs and almost never finds on its own: his ending does not have to become your ending. His chapter is real, and it's permanent, and it will always be part of your book. But it is one chapter, in one section, and you are still holding the pen for everything that comes after it. Choosing not to let his story become your entire story is not a betrayal of him. It's the opposite. It's you refusing to let the worst thing that happened get the final word over a life that is still yours to write. And look how precisely this lands on Day 6, because your grief and your pattern turn out to be the same shape. The pattern says: one bad thing defines the whole. One inconsistent day means I'm inconsistent. One chapter means that's the whole book. Three days ago, on Day 5, you cut that exact wire, remember? "An emotion is not a verdict of who I am." Today you did the bravest possible version of the same move. You took the single heaviest chapter a life can hold, and you refused to let it become the verdict on your entire story. That's not a coincidence. That's you applying, to the hardest thing you'll ever face, the exact skill this whole week was teaching you. You didn't just learn it. You used it where it matters most.

@Kim Gower-winter Isn't it amazing once you see it, you realize you can't unsee it. The power of ''doubt'' now lives separate from how it was connected to you before👏👏👏

@Esther Joubert welcome! With this outlook, you are more than ready for AVA. If you are ready for her, go here and start with your 7 DAYS Pattern Interrupt in the Classroom! Welcome to the new version of you!

@Terra Holston Welcome Terra. You'll see the 7 Days will take you deep and you can do it at your own pace. The most important thing is to do it intentionally, so welcome and I'm looking forward to your posts!