Friends/Family will deter your progress IF YOU LET THEM!
A difficult topic. After coaching for a while, I've experienced, from the coaching perspective, a lot of different family/friendship dynamics that can either make my client's journey easier or harder. Your ability to handle the friction that might come with stating what your goal is to friends/family is extremely important. I have seen my clients make incredible progress- I'm talking 15-20 pounds down in a few months, only to begin to stall out OR even trend back up in weight because they cannot say "No" to their spouse, friends, or other family members. Or, which is arguably more difficult, the friend/family member will actively push back on the healthy habits my client has been implementing, causing that friction in the relationship and the client to "give in" to keep the peace, which in turn impacts my client's progress. How I handle this is different every situation, but here are a few starting points I suggest: - Keep a like-minded and goal focused team around you- it's a no-brainer that your circle should actively push your towards the good things in life, not hold you back. - Continue to remove negative influences in life- goes without saying. Sometimes it's limiting time and setting boundaries if you aren't removing completely. This is your choice. - Educate them on your goals- people have to know! Those good people will honor your goals and even help you stay accountable to them! - Socialize without a food focused event (bowling, coffee, parks, etc)- there are so many others. I am not saying to never go out and grab dinner with people, but I will tell you that if this is done even 2-3x a week and you don't have the education/self-control to select options that still lead to progress, you will not make the progress you truly want. Goals/expectations need to match your actions!!! Let me know if you've experienced anything like this if willing to share! Happy Friday! Coach Em