Let's get to know each other! Comment below sharing where you are in the world, a photo of you , and something you like to do for fun. 😊 This post contains important information about getting the most out of this community, so please read through everything before you start. 👓 ✨ Read Through Our Community Guidelines ✨ First and foremost, please read through our Community Guidelines to ensure this remains a valuable, supportive space for everyone. Quick Summary: - Be respectful and kind - No soliciting or self-promotion - Keep it relevant to dating/relationships - Protect privacy - no sharing screenshots - What's shared here, stays here 📈 How To Earn Points, Level Up & Unlock Rewards 📈 Our community is designed around participation. You'll unlock new resources and perks as you engage, support, and help other members. How Points Work: - One 'like' = One point - The more you interact and contribute quality content, the more points you earn - Your level is shown at the bottom right of your avatar picture - Points needed for next level shown under your avatar on your profile page 💎 Important Note About DMs 💎 The ability to DM other community members is unlocked at Level 2 (Cotton). So if you want to stay connected and build relationships in this community, start earning your first points now! Please contact me with any comments, suggestions, or questions. I read everything! Let's reboot your love life together, Dessi 💕

Apologies for the late notice but the call that was on the calendar today is canceled. We have a call scheduled for next week which will take place as planned. I will post additional dates for the month of July.

This week we talked about the 4 Stages of Dating (the 4 Ss) and the Relationship Journey. - Scouting: You are expanding your opportunities to meet potential partners. - Sorting: “Who deserves more of my time and attention?” - Screening: You’re now looking beneath attraction and surface compatibility to assess long-term relationship potential. - Testing: Reveals whether the connection can survive outside the honeymoon phase. Healthy relationships tend to move through very specific stages — and most people get stuck because they either rush the process… or skip stages entirely. Here’s the framework I teach: 1️⃣ Stranger This is before you even meet someone. It's about who you’re BEING, how you show up, how open you are, and whether your life actually allows space for connection. This is the stage of:• Visibility• Energy• Mindset• Standards• Openness• Scouting opportunities intentionally. 2️⃣ Curious Prospect You’ve met someone and there’s mutual curiosity. This is NOT the stage to fantasize about the future. It’s the stage for:• Observation• Light exploration• Paying attention• Noticing consistency• Seeing how they show up The goal is not attachment. The goal is information. 3️⃣ Interested Match Now there’s growing interest and emotional investment. This is where you begin:• Screening for compatibility• Discussing values and lifestyle• Looking at emotional maturity• Watching for alignment between words and actions This is where many people ignore red flags because chemistry takes over. 4️⃣ Exclusive Relationship You’ve intentionally chosen to focus on one another. Now the work becomes:• Building trust• Navigating conflict• Emotional safety• Communication• Integration into each other’s lives A lot of people want exclusivity before true compatibility has even been established. 5️⃣ Committed Partnership This is where long-term alignment matters most. Not just love — but:• Shared vision• Emotional resilience• Partnership skills• Mutual effort• The ability to grow together through real life

Hey friends, We now have over 50 people registered for our first-ever Spring Mix & Mingle for singles 50+!! There’s one thing we’re actively working to balance: We’d love a few more men in the room. The quality of this experience comes from the people in it, and we’re curating with care. 🌸 The Community Voted — and This Is What You Asked For This is a curated virtual experience for singles 50+ who are ready to expand their circle — whether that leads to friendship, meaningful connection, or something more. How to Register 1. Click Attend on the Meetup event page 1. Pay via Meetup - PayPal 3. COMPLETE THE ONLINE FORM The Zoom link will be sent 24 hours before the event. What to Expect • Small breakout rooms (2–4 people) • Light structure with guided prompts • Rotations so you meet a variety of people • A post-event match list to continue connections What You’ll Need • Stable internet connection • Desktop or laptop strongly preferred (not phone) • Camera ON (required — this is mandatory) Who This Is For • You’re 50+ • You’re open to meeting new people for dating or friendship • You value meaningful conversation over small talk • You’re willing to show up with presence and intention A quick note: Breakout rooms are assigned randomly to keep things flowing. While we aim for a balanced group, we can’t guarantee a perfect mix in every room. If that’s essential for you, this may not be the right fit — and that’s completely okay. But if you’re ready to show up, engage, and see what unfolds — we’d love to have you. 👉 To register - COMPLETE THE ONLINE FORM. See you soon, Dessi

Last night we held our first virtual social event, and the energy in the "room" was amazing! 40 of you showed up, jumped into breakout rooms, and did something that's surprisingly rare these days — you had real, honest, low-pressure conversations with other people who are in the same boat and who *get it.* Here's what you told me you loved most: 💬 "Everyone seemed so genuine." 💬 "Open and honest discussion among courteous, empathetic individuals." 💬 "It was refreshing to meet virtually and know that all attendees are single." 💬 "Conversations with others going through similar dating issues — not feeling so alone." 💬 "Such a nice, friendly, low-pressure bunch of people." 80% of you said that you would definitely attend again ( 95% if I count the maybes), and 90% of you said you would recommend it to a friend! I consider that a huge win for a first-time event! What struck me reading your feedback was this theme: you came to meet people, and you actually did. Participants were from across the country, all navigating similar landscapes, all showing up vulnerably and authentically. Thank you for keeping an open mind and for tolerating the technical issues - so much great learning from this event that will make the next one that much better! PLUS, most importantly, based on the matching form, I see how much interest there is in deepening the friendships and connections! And yes — we're doing this again. 🙌 Not sure when, but I'll keep you posted! Thank you for showing up, being open, and making this community feel like exactly what it's supposed to be.