Bliss Rx: Identifying Harmonic Points
Dive deeper! This is from Chapter 3. Now is the time for some deep reflection to notice where your harmonic points are in your life. When you can name them, it becomes much easier to try something new when you reach that point again. Your harmonic points may manifest in your relationships, financial matters, or health. The process of identifying harmonic points involves deep reflection and analysis of your past experiences, particularly those that have shaped your emotional responses and behaviors. This is the first crucial step towards breaking the cycle and rewriting the programs that run your life. The following exercise will help you filter through your past and pinpoint these repetitive patterns. You may find it useful to repeat throughout your healing journey. Be patient and kind to yourself during this exercise. It can bring up strong emotions. If you find this process overwhelming, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor. Remember, the goal is not to blame yourself or others but to understand and grow from these experiences. 1. Gather your tools: Get your journal and find a quiet, comfortable space where you can be alone for a while. 2. Initial reflection: Start by writing down significant life events, especially those that evoked strong emotional responses, both positive and negative. 3. Behavior triggers: What are some specific situations or interactions that trigger strong emotional responses in you? How do you usually react when these triggers occur? Are these reactions consistent across different areas of your life, like work, family, or friendships? 4. Identify patterns: What recurring patterns do you notice in your relationships, your career, your home? Are there specific roles you tend to play (e.g., caregiver, fixer, mediator)? How do these roles make you feel, and do they fulfill or drain you? How have they shaped your sense of self-worth? For example, “I often feel abandoned in relationships,” “I tend to take on roles where I feel undervalued,” “I have dated the same