Took a huge step back from the mother of my children she was mentally messing with my contact with the children I’m finding it hard she moved 2 hours away which I found hard when having to finish work and travel straight there on a Friday to collect them drop them back on a Sunday but it’s not be a fair ground she’s refused to meet half way with any of it and when I didn’t have my kids she’d cut contact no FaceTime calls no nothing until I would next have them. She’s now trying to get more money out of me through the court system! Would you say it’s because I’ve stepped back because she was controlling everything that she’s now trying to come through the system to mess me up..?

Every day i find myself coming back to the same thought! "Just tell her you love her! Ask for one final shot. Because this time you will do everything to fix our family" - something along those lines. As a man! I just want to grab her and shake her. Knock some sense into her. Ive made mistakes im sorry I know I hurt you but we can work on this if we just speak to each other. Sort the issues. Do counselling, therapy bith work on ourselves etc... But then the hard truth hits that women dont think logically... and that would just make things worse... The hardest part about this whole situation is the no contact for sure... not because I want to know what shes doing. But because I miss her. And my anxiety yearns for her. I also feel at a loss that I can prove im making a change if we dont talk... then im also sat waiting to see if she messages me out the blue... if she ever will... Luckily I have small interactions when I see the kids... where we can talk... but how can she see the changes if we dont talk about them? Is the question that always repeats in my head... Then I remind myself that the focus should be on me!... and patience is the key! But those though appear so often, especially when im at work.

Hi guys how is everyone hope everyone is on there journey and healing but I’m not going to lie I’m Really struggling at the moment I have my Good days then my bad days it’s like I don’t Know wether I’m coming or going I’m finding it really tough with the mother Of my kids in all aspects she’s an avoidant so it makes it even harder to get her to even talk she’ll happily just go silent on me for a long time.. how do you fix things if she’s not willing to even talk right now… I know she’s hurt From what she saw in my Phone but we had broken up in August 2025 so I wish she’d give me a conversation where we could actually Talk and sort through things I don’t know if this is the end for us but it’s been no improvement since Feb really…

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Any advice on wether I should ask this evening if she would be prepared for a talk it’s been 3 months and I have held back and gave her space to regulate her emotional state etc after going through my phone in early Feb.. or do I wait a little longer