Most of us can remember at least one moment where we had a big feeling as a kid and the response we received taught us something about ourselves. It could have been subtle (an eye roll or a huff). Maybe it was loud (yelling, cursing, violent). Either way, the message landed and it stayed there. We learned that our sadness was inconvenient and that our anger was dangerous or forbidden. Our fear was seen as weakness and our needs were too much. Those messages didn't come from the truth of who we are. They came from how we were witnessed in our most vulnerable moments. This week's reflection is borrowed from the mini course exercise, "How Was I Witnessed": Think of a time when you had a big feeling as a child. What was the response you received? And what message did you learn about yourself? Complete this sentence: "When I felt _______, the response I received was ______. The message I learned about myself was _________." If you feel comfortable, share it here. You might be surprised by how many of us carry similar messages. xo, Amanda

What are you reading? Currently reading, just finished, or sitting on your nightstand collecting dust (no shame, we've all got that pile.) What's on your list right now? xo, Amanda Ps. I'm "thinking" about starting a little book club. Maybe? Probably? Thoughts? 😏

Hello Lovelies! I'm excited to give you a sneak peak into something I've been building behind the scenes for a while now. 🤗 It's called Going Deeper Into Shame (And Your First Experience of UnShaming) and it will be the first course inside the Premium tier. If the mini course helped you understand shame, this is where it gets real. This is where you start catching it in the moment. Where you trace it back to where it came from. And where you feel, maybe for the first time, what it is like to be witnessed without someone trying to fix you. The Premium tier is open now at the Founding Members price of $9/month. This price won't last forever, and the women who join now get access to everything WE build in this tier as it comes to life. I cannot wait to share more with you soon. xo, Amanda

There's a question most of us ask ourselves so often we don't even hear it anymore. "What's wrong with me?" It shows up when we're struggling, experiencing big feelings, when we make a mistake, when we can't seem to do the thing everyone else seems to handle just fine. It feels like our own voice. But it's not. It's a voice we internalized. 🌟 This week's practice: Pay attention to how many times the question "What's wrong with me?" runs through your mind this week. When you catch it, pause. Don't judge it. Just notice. Then take a few notes: - What was I doing? - What emotion came up? - What was happening in my body? - What thoughts came after "What's wrong with me?" Share below! xo, Amanda

It wasn't until I had my daughter that I became a morning person out of necessity. 🤪 My kid was an early riser like 4:00am - 5:00am for many years. Growing up as a teenager and into my adulthood, I was much more a night owl. I loved staying up late with friends and then once I started working as a server/bartender, I was there until 4:00am some nights. Not to mention my party days! 🫣 Now, I'm up every morning at 6:00am to start to my day and I actually love the early mornings. I like to sleep in on the weekends until 8:00am sometimes but I really feel like I'm missing so much of my day. How about you? xo, Amanda