Hello lover, When Walter entered my practice, he was jumpy and a little all over the place. "I overthink a lot." It was a statement that was clear as day. The anxiety was dripping off him. He could barely hold eye contact. His situation was quite dramatic. He barely had any intimacy with his wife. Not just sex, but even cuddling and romantic touches were rarely a thing. He would get so stuck in his mind that he could only really let go when both of them took drugs. Which started very early on in their relationship. "I would really like to feel that free and strong, without having to use. And I really want us to be closer again." "Ok, and do you know how she feels about your situation?"  His answer didn't surprise me. He had no clue. The drugs and the overthinking were one thing, but the true culprit was poor communication. It's simple. What doesn't get expressed starts living an entire life in your mind. It grows, it distorts, it takes over. And that's exactly why sharing what's alive for you is so crucial. If you don't do it, you disconnect from yourself, and your partner. Which destroys intimacy. This is why week 9 of Reclaim the Fire: the masculine path to polarity, arousal, and erotic leadership is all about relational mastery. How to lead the intimate conversations you're afraid of having. How to instill open and playful communication about your sex life. What to say to a new lover so she feels safer with you than with any other man before you. It's a cliché, but the foundation of any good relationship, including a good sex life, is communication. If there are things left unsaid in your relationship, and you want that to change, join Reclaim the Fire. We start Tuesday, so move quickly. https://gamma.app/docs/Reclaim-the-Fire-yu1lytlghgt6de2 Your intimacy guide, Sanne