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Emotional Wave
Wondering what practices/rituals people have in place for the emotional wave.. My 39-55 channel and other pieces come at me hard and it feels like they take over. I’m trying to hold space for the melancholy but it can sometimes hinder my day because I have no energy for anything and sometimes I just want to cancel everything that I do (podcast, writing, etc) and start over when the wave dissipates. But then that feels like I’m starting from scratch and not just continuing. During these periods I feel like a thief of energy bcz I get bursts of it by being around my children but then I slump back into the low if I’m by myself.
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The first thing that came to me when I read this was wondering if you were taught that emotions are "bad" or if they were "too much" for others. I used to ask my kids (and myself) to assess how long the emotion will take. I would say when they were small, "is this a three hour problem or a three day problem" We would all self assess and know we were "allowed " to feel sorry for ourselves for the time we chose. 2 out of 3 of us have 39-55- not that I knew it at the time. When I'm really in a low, I inform all the people who come near me that my mood has nothing to do with them so please don't take it personally. Reading that you get bursts of energy from your kids, are you non sacral? As a non sacral myself, I totally get this borrowed energy comment! I understand melancholy- 10 gates !- and what I have come to realise is that Melancholy wants to create. Creating ANYTHING, a cake, a poem, colouring your kids' book helps accept the melancholy for what it is, rather than try to escape it. It's also useful to name it. "Oh, nothing is actually WRONG, I'm just feeling melancholic ... I is what it is. And the last thing I'll say ( for now- 🤪) is that I'm finally asking myself if I'm actually hungry or if I am eating my feelings. 39-55 is a BITCH for this! HAPPY HOLIDAYS
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This is a space where you can connect with one another in whatever way you like! I may post tidbits in here from time to time, but this isn't a space to ask me questions (save those for the monthly Q&As). It's more of a general chit-chat space for community - yes I'm a 4th line ;)
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Hey Sophie, I know I won't be able to make the call at midnight Australia time although I was hoping to try. I had a very wriggly 6 year old stay over last night who kept trying to use me as a blanket. She lost her 1st front tooth and I was up until midnight searching for it. I actually found it after 4 hours! That will be a cute forever memory for me. I do have a question that I'm hoping you can address on the call and I will listen later. On composite charts, what is the most useful order to read. You may have addressed this in flourish but I can't find it. My take is: check centres as in 8-1/7-2 etc. then angle, . Would I then check channels? Are any more important to the relationship than others, as in, would electromagnetic trump compromised? If you only had 20 minutes to to look at a parent/child relationship, where would you focus? Would it be the same focus in a romantic relationship? Thanks in advance and happy holidays to you, Kaito and everyone reading this ❤️
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Hi, When I first logged on, I was asked to pay for a subscription but lo and behold, I'm in now. Seems to have changed its mind.
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Kaz Toupin
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Hi. 2/5 emo mani here. I love HD for helping me better understand and make a posit pact in my family, especially my young grandchildren.

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