HELPING STARTS BEING THE SAFEST PLACE TO HIDE. I don't have to help to be safe. I'm allowed to do the thing(s) that is mine and let i come back to me. Fixer/pleaser strategy that keeps me safe & validated while quietly avoiding my own edges. The subtle payoff is control & worthiness; the cost is dilution of my true expression.

When I asked him about the feeling of “jail” when you are stuck between realities, your inner is shifted but the lag in the outside is still not mirroring back the shift and here is the reply that shifted everything inside: let the feeling of “jail” be data, not identity. Feel where that sits in your body, breathe space around it, and remind your system, “I’m safe in me.” That shifts you from fighting the bars to walking your path one brick at a time.

I just did the deep breath work from the workshop today. I was able to fully participate and feel my inner child with me. The emotion that she has not been able to express is fear. She is afraid and I am afraid. I am not afraid cognitively, but my body feels fear. I had to stop the exercise. I think that I'm still holding onto this fear because I need it for some reason. I feel so reluctant to let it go. It is very painful right now after doing the breathing exercise. I have DBT skills that I have practiced that will bring me back to the present.

All your chakras blasting off, who is feeling this? Breathe deep! You are always Loved just have to feel it and know it in your bones! 😁 Stay in Spicy! 🌶️

Seriously if you haven’t filled out the identity worksheet you’re missing out. Don’t miss out! You’re worth it 💯! My main insight is knowing where my core identity stems from, childhood. If wanting something out loud gets it cancelled, then I’ll stop wanting it out loud. If needing care gets me in trouble, I’ll become the one who doesn’t need much. If my excitement makes trouble, I’ll dim it before it shows. The helper, the strong one, the easy one who doesn’t need much. Three costumes, one decision made a long time ago. My take away from this #Day1HW. The good things are mine to keep. My excitement is safe out loud. I don’t have to take it away first. Sending each and every one of you tons of love and an abundance of light. 🫶🏼🙏