This the latest edition of The Remarkable Man Newsletter on LinkedIn. I wanted to share it here with you. I recently watched a video of a high level coach talking about a billionaire he had worked with. The man had the businesses, the properties and the kind of net worth most of us never think about, and he had a seat at tables where the decisions that move industries get made. Yet behind closed doors, he admitted something very telling. Some mornings he still woke up feeling like he didn't belong in any of it, and he was waiting for somebody to figure out that he wasn't as good as everyone believed. I was surprised to hear this from a man that plays in what most would consider the rarified air of the elite class. Here's a man admitted a feeling I too have felt. I have walked into rooms where I looked around and wondered how I got there, and I have carried that quiet voice that says you're only one mistake away from it falling down. If a billionaire and a coach can feel the same thing, then maybe the gap between us is a lot smaller than we have been telling ourselves. The Mask Most Men Are Wearing Most of the men I work with are not failures. They are founders, executives, tradesmen who built companies, fathers who provide, and men who have earned every bit of respect they get. Almost all of them wear the same mask, and it says "I'm good enough, I've got this, everything is under control." Underneath that mask sits a quieter belief that they are not really good enough, and that sooner or later someone will see through the act. Men rarely say this out loud, because we were raised to believe that admitting it is the same as proving it. So we work harder, we achieve more, and we keep the mask on tighter. We tell ourselves that the next promotion, the next milestone or the next number in the bank account will finally quiet the voice, but it doesn't. It simply moves the goalposts a little further out. What a Billionaire Teaches Us About Ourselves The most freeing part of that story is the proof that this feeling has nothing to do with your results. A man can build an empire and still carry the belief that he is not enough, which tells you the feeling was never an accurate measurement of anything. It is a human experience, and it shows up in every income bracket, every industry and every room.

Brother, I wanted to pop in here with a mindset hack that got me thinking. Last night I was watching a video about the difference between a 1% man and the average man when it comes to success and money creation. The 1% man just knows who he is. Money to him is a natural extension of who he is. He sees life as his to shape and form. He sees challenges as a game and one he's wired to win. He sees his connection to his higher power as a natural harmony rather than something he's searching for. The average man is always chasing. He sees life as a battle and something he's got to get better at. Everything appears to be just "over there". "If only I had more money, more smarts, more love, more intelligence...then I would be able to...(fill in the blank). Being left wanting is his life experience. In most cases the 1% man wasn't born with the mindset of a winner. He had to work at it. A lot! He had to become the man that wins by default. I too am working on this in my own life. Every day I am meditating on my ideal reality. But not from wishing or hoping...But by BEING. Going beyond believing that it is possible for me, but KNOWING it is my divine right and my true essence of the man I am. It's not a magical cure for a lifetime of struggle. It takes some time for the self to truly feel it at a core level. Every day! I am being tested to see if I actually embody the old "struggle" and "average" mindset, or do I decide to accept the truth of the man I am? The truth is, you and I both have the DNA of a 1% man. You were endowed with the power and privilege of inheriting the kingdom! This is the true mindset of The Remarkable Man. Set aside 5 minutes in the morning, mid day, and in the evening to remind yourself that you are a man that expects the best. That everything always works out in your favour. That money and success is your birth right. That you have a gift for solving any problem. That love and happiness is just a natural extension of your personality. Breathe this in Brother!

Brother, if you have not hit the open road in some time, I highly recommend it. Whether you are the driver or riding shotgun, it really doesn't matter. Just pick a destination and go!! I'll be honest, it has been awhile for me. But I decided to make the trip from Vancouver to Calgary with my Dad for the weekend. It's my Mom's 90th Birthday Sunday so it's kinda a big deal. My Dad no longer can do airports and lineups, so the road was the only other option. The truth is, being behind the wheel is my happy place. I use to do this trip in one shot, doing the route as quickly and efficiently as I could. Minimal breaks and pit stops. Every semi truck, UHaul or RV I could pass was a point and another win! So taking long breaks meant those slow vehicles would eventually pass me and I'd lose ground. Today, I still like to be ahead of the masses, but the highway has improved dramatically that passing is now so much easier, and travelling with my Dad extended the trip to two days. So I'm actually enjoying the ride so much more. The journey I am referring to is truly uniquely a Western Canadian one with our vast distances and single lane highways that make road trips so rewarding. However, where ever you find yourself, I'm sure you have the equivalent in your part of the world. Whether you are in a relationship or not, either make it a couples thing or a bro thing, even rent a car if you don't own one. But have a conversation and say, "You know what, It's been awhile since I've been on a road trip...Let's drive to ????? Next weekend. Make it happen. It's good for the soul! Coach Dwayne PS The Short Video is us driving through the Canadian Rockies.

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She's Not Going Cold...She's Responding to You! At some point in your marriage, something shifted. She stopped reaching for you and the conversations got shorter, the intimacy dried up, and you've been trying to figure out what the hell you did wrong. Here's the truth most men don't want to hear. She didn't pull away from you, she pulled away from the man you stopped being. Women don't suddenly go cold randomly, they respond to what they feel, and what she's been feeling is a man who's been managing the situation instead of leading it. Keeping the peace instead of holding your ground makes you slowly disappear while still showing up physically. She can't always put her finger on it, but she feels it, and her pulling away is her response to it. Sit with that for a second. 3 Ways to Turn It Around: 1. Stop chasing her approval and start holding your own - Every time you shrink to manage her mood, you confirm what she's already sensing and that destroys the certainty and the safety she needs from you. A man who stands in his conviction even when she's uncomfortable is a man she can feel again. 2. Lead something - That's right! Pick one area of your life or your home and lead it decisively. Without asking for permission. Leadership isn't loud, it's consistent, and she's watching for it. 3. Get back in your own life - What did you used to care about before the relationship became your entire identity? You have to get back to your purpose, your friendships, and your edge. A man with a life of his own is infinitely more magnetic than a man whose world revolves around his wife's happiness. She doesn't need more effort from you. She needs more you. Drop a comment below. Where do you recognize yourself in this? You've got this! Be Remarkable! -Coach Dwayne