Watch the hands, not the eyes. Danger is revealed in movements more than words. What's your best tip for staying safe?

By now you’ve probably heard about the mass shooting at the Catholic school in Minnesota. The details of the murders themselves follow a familiar pattern—and we’ll save that discussion for another day. What struck us was a video from inside the church during the evacuation. It shows the chaos as children and adults ran for their lives before police ever arrived. Two men appear in that footage. One held the door. Another filmed on his phone. That was it. And if you watch closely, you’ll notice something heartbreaking: the children running past them looked up—searching for direction, for leadership, for safety. What they got instead was silence. A man with a phone. A man holding a door. Neither stepping up. Neither taking responsibility. Neither leading. These weren’t strangers on the street. These were men in their own parish. Presumably “Men of faith.” Men who, in that moment, had no plan, no presence, and no ability to guide the flock in front of them. To top it off, one of them decided it was worth releasing the footage for the rest of the world to see. What This Reveals: We don’t just need men in our churches, schools, and workplaces. We need men of strength and clarity. Men who are prepared physically, mentally, and spiritually to lead their families—and anyone in their care—to safety when danger strikes. Holding a door isn’t leadership. Filming chaos isn’t protection. Our families deserve better. Questions for You and Your Family: - When you entrust your kids to a school, a church, or even a workplace—what do you expect of the adults around them? - Do you assume someone will rise to the occasion… or do you know who actually can? - If the unthinkable happened in your presence, would your children, your spouse, your community look at you—and find strength? At The Vigilant Family, we ask the hard questions because ignoring them leaves people vulnerable. Are you equipped? Are you prepared? Or are you just hoping someone else will be? Because hope is not a strategy.

How Normal Moments Can Quietly Endanger You Family's Safety - And What to Do Instead: We recently witnessed a moment that’s been quietly bothering us. We were in line at a local store behind a young woman. When it was her turn at the register, the clerk asked for her rewards number. She gave her phone number out loud. The clerk responded with her name — “Sarah?” — and casually confirmed her street: “Still on 7th Ave in X-City?” She said yes. Sarah completed her transaction and walked out to her vehicle, a newer white Escalade, Lic. 123XYZ. In less than five minutes, we knew her name, phone number, street she lived on, vehicle make and model, and even her license plate. This wasn’t some elaborate sting operation. It was just... a normal Tuesday. Think about how often this happens — not just to you, but around you. How many times have you given your phone number or email at checkout for a rewards program? Has the clerk confirmed your name? Address? Birthday? To most people, this feels routine — even harmless. But as Vigilant Families, we need to be aware of how our routines are affecting our families safety and how we can reduce the chances of something bad happening to us. Let’s Be Honest: Would You Ever... …walk up to a total stranger and hand them your full name, phone number, home address, and vehicle description? Of course not. But when this same information gets shared casually in public settings — at the checkout, over the phone, or online — the risk becomes invisible, normalized. And while most people around you are decent and distracted, a predator only needs one moment of opportunity. A “Bad Guy” has one job, to be a good at victimizing innocent people, and they are always working. A career criminal sees patterns others miss. They don’t look like villains. They don’t wait for “ideal” conditions. They observe, collect, and act — all while blending in. That young woman didn’t do anything wrong. But she was unknowingly exposed — by a system that prizes convenience over caution, and by a culture that tells us not worry, everything will be fine.

We’re so glad you’re here. This space was built for families who refuse to leave their safety up to chance—or to algorithms that silence what matters. Here, you can learn, share, and connect freely with other parents, grandparents, and protectors who care about building stronger, safer families. Here’s how to get started: 1. Introduce yourself below. Tell us who you are, where you’re from, and what brought you here. 2. Ask questions. Big or small, your questions help everyone. 3. Share scenarios. “What would you do if…?” posts spark some of the best discussions. 4. Engage often. Comment, like, and add your voice. The more we all participate, the stronger this community becomes. What to expect here: - Training resources and lessons on awareness, self-defense, and family safety. - Live discussions and group challenges. - Real stories and solutions from families just like yours. - A community that supports—not censors—you. ⚡Remember: Confidence is contagious. By engaging here, you’re not only helping yourself—you’re equipping others to protect what matters most. Drop your intro below and let’s get this community moving! 👇 We Teach Confidence™ S & J The Vigilant Family™