No standup today.

Relationship Mapping

you probably already know I want to make sure, what your goal is, is very clear to me. Is that a fair observation ? Because we both want to reach a level of understanding. I’m not going to say “_____” because _____. If _____ then _____. Does that seem fair? I don’t know whether _____ or _____. I wouldn’t tell you to _____ because _____. One of the things you’re really going to love about _____ is _____. Eventually______ In the days and weeks ahead _____. I don’t know if you’ve already begun to notice _____. I’m wondering if _____. How would it feel if you _____? How does it feel when you _____? There is no need for you to _____. Einstein who said “Problems cannot be solved with the same mindset that created them.” If______then…..

Now that we haven't had standup in a little while, we can reflect on the impact the books we have read, have had on our lives. We can make thousands of excuses for why we dont live the lives we want, but none of it has to do with anything external, its all about our internal controls and our perception of things. The sole act of breathing is a privilege, until we realize this we wont get to the depth of gratitude in just being alive. Incongruence refers to the moments when we feel conflicted about a goal, decision, or situation. It’s a form of internal tension—like having two competing voices inside us. One part of us wants to take a particular action, while another part pulls in the opposite direction. This internal tug-of-war can be mentally exhausting, leaving us uncertain and emotionally drained. We can experience incongruence in a variety of ways. Sometimes it’s as simple and seemingly harmless as deciding whether to go out to the movies or stay in and read a book. These minor conflicts don’t usually cause significant stress. However, there are also deeper, more value-driven conflicts—like wanting to assert yourself more in the workplace, but fearing that doing so might come off as pushy or go against your core values of kindness and cooperation. These kinds of incongruence are harder to navigate because they involve our identity and beliefs. On the other hand, congruence is the state in which our thoughts, feelings, and actions are aligned. A congruent person experiences a sense of clarity and direction—there is no internal conflict because their decisions resonate with their values and goals. This state is often described as “being in the zone” or experiencing a “flow state.” In these moments, everything feels natural and effortless because there is no resistance between intention and action. When we are clear with our intentions, it doesn’t matter how much chaos is in our environment, we are not moved by this chaos. If it affects us negatively, then it indicates we do not have a strong personal foundation of our intention.

1. The innovators dilemma, marc Benioff. 2. Steve jobs, walter issacson. 3. Warren buffet, an american capitalist. 4. The four hour work week, timothy ferris. 5. Eloquence, Peter andrei. 6. How highly effective people speak, peter andrei 7. Range, david epstein. Please everybody add to this list and lets start taking votes