When we agree with someone we "fit in". When we disagree, we are perhaps a little uncomfortable. Can I suggest two ideas. One reflect, two seek to understand. What do you think about ALL these options?
this is where i see the biggest challenge for men as we try to fit in as much as possible, and this is where we create the most internal conflict for ourselves and creates regret and unhappiness. where if we were more honest, more focused it would help us so much more
When we ask questions with why or receive them, is there a bit of defensiveness? Why didn't you do your homework, why isn't the presentation ready, why did you buy that? Non-violent Communication can still be clear, but may be received better, and build more trust. Can you think of better ways of asking "why questions?"
Borrowed from our new member @Gaby Tzeschlock today: "Confidence is not a Character Trait, it's a process." Thanks Gaby. What's everyone else's learnings on confidence?
Most of us who are not teens any more can look back on lessons learned from difficult past situations. There are smaller challenges we get every day, like a cross word with someone, a stubbed toe, poor service at a restaurant, an unexpected expense etc. As a parent we get to SHOW (not tell) our kids how to be outstanding humans.... What do you think about looking for what we can become through these situations?
I look at this in two ways really. Totally agree with it being about showing our children, but I also think its about showing us as parents more. How many times have we thought we understood some of the principles we are showing our children, to then find a more complex answer or a different outlook completly from it that was better, more useful. At the moment, resiliance and self trust are the two that I am going through in my life and with my son that is helping him grow, learn and be a great man