Hi, I'm Joel 😀 I live in Ottawa, Canada 🇨🇦, married last October and I am hopeful, excited but also fearful to join. The fear comes from failure; as understanding my partner's mental load and acting accordingly will be a **MUST** for us to have a marriage for our lifetimes. I have failed over and over again without even realizing. Unfortunately, my wife is going through a full burn-out as a nurse. It's hard enough as it is; but now even harder. I took on 99% of the mental and physical load at first and slowly re-introducing her into the everyday responsibilities following her pace. I want to get 3 main things out of the community: 1. Understand and have clear actions towards managing mental & physical load 2. Get feedback or answers when it feels like hitting a "wall" 3. Accountability to face reality and learn My wife fell in love with my, in my opinion for: 1. My humour 2. My ambition & Creativity 3. My calm and logical problem solving qualities Excited to learn, meet and immerse myself in the world of understand the mental load.