Awareness, the Inner Critic, and Becoming Magnetic Most of us walk around with a voice running quietly in the background — telling us we're too much, not enough, or that we need to shrink to be safe. That's the inner critic. And here's the thing most people miss: you can't soften a voice you're not even aware is talking. In this session, we're going to slow down and actually notice that voice — where it shows up, what it sounds like, what it's trying to protect you from. Because awareness isn't just insight for insight's sake. It's the doorway back to your own magnetism. You can't be fully seen, fully magnetic, while part of you is busy managing an inner critic you didn't even know was running the show. We'll move through a hands-on awareness exercise together — one designed to help you catch the critic in real time and start relating to it differently, so more of your natural energy is free to actually attract what you want, instead of staying locked up in self-protection. We'll also look at something that surprises a lot of people: when we feel triggered in the present, it's rarely just about what's happening right now. Often it's an old emotional wound getting brushed up against — and the intensity we feel is really the echo of an earlier moment, not the current one. Once you can see that link, triggers stop being something to fear and become something to learn from. Come with curiosity, not judgment. This is about meeting yourself — not fixing yourself. Remember to leave me a comment if you have enjoyed this weeks coffee chat so that the SKOOL Community can flourish: no interactions = no community

Tech gremlins ate our recording this morning 😅 — so here's what we covered, for anyone who missed it or wants a refresher. We talked about unlearning — the idea that magnetism isn't something you build from scratch, it's something you uncover once you clear out the old conditioning sitting on top of it. A few of the threads we pulled on: - We're taught to earn worth instead of just embodying it — magnetism means dropping the performance - A lot of us learned to shrink to be liked — playing small was survival, not personality - We're taught to distrust our own gut in favour of "being reasonable" - Scarcity thinking is usually inherited, not innate — worth tracing where yours came from - Control gets mistaken for safety — real magnetism works through allowing, not gripping - Unlearning isn't about deleting the old programming — it's choosing what still serves you We also dug into four old teachings that might be the central pin in your own unlearning practice: 1. "Good things come to those who wait / work hard" — ease starts to feel unearned or suspicious 2. "Don't get too big for your boots" — resistance to visibility or standing out 3. "Be realistic" — a permission slip for smaller dreams 4. "Nice people don't want too much" — desire gets tangled up with guilt If you want to find your own pin: notice which of those four makes you flinch a little. That's usually the one doing the most work underneath everything else. Drop a comment with the one that landed for you — always curious what shows up for this community. ☕ The exercise: The Pause in the Unlearning Work with the breath: 1. Start in Namaste (hands together at heart centre) 2. Breathe in — locate where in your body you're holding the old belief 3. Breathe out — bundle the belief up, gathering it together within you 4. Breathe in — tilt your hands forward and reach to full extension, pulling the old belief out and severing its ties completely 5. Breathe in — open your arms out to the sides at shoulder height asyou welcome in the counter belief 6. Breathe in — raise your arms fully overhead into Namaste, connecting with source to embody the new program 7. Breathe out — draw the new embodiment fully into your being, anchoring the new belief within you 8. Breathe in — return hands to prayer position at heart space, pause here

This week's coffee session is all about kindness — and how it quietly amplifies your presence, your magnetism, and how people feel around you. We explore three ways kindness works beneath the surface: lowering people's guard, making them feel truly seen, and signalling a calm, confident abundance rather than need. Watch the full session above, then take a moment to set your intention for the week: where could a little more kindness change how you show up? 📋 The Kindness Inquiry quiz is coming to the feed shortly — a simple reflection across eight areas of your life (self, relationships, work, community, practice, and beyond) to help you find exactly where to focus. Keep an eye out and come back to share what you find. Want more personalised support with embodying your magnetism? My Fortnightly Alignment Call is a recurring one-on-one space — every two weeks, we look at your wholelife, not just one area, and get you precisely on the right track. If you'd like more focused, individual guidance on this journey, you can find out more atwww.elaya-jane.com

As promised in our coffe call for this week, I have attached the Kindness Quiz. Reach out and share any observations that you might make 😍

Join me for a 10 minute sequence to clear and balance your auric field. I wish for you to practice this technique every day and become more aware of your magnetic field.