Many times when training we need to wait. Wait for the release, wait for the emotions to come down, wait for the learning. It’s more of a waiting game than most people have time for. Our busy lives have us always in a hurry and this can be very detrimental to your relationship with your horse. If we think about setting up and waiting more than making it happen the pressure comes off. The expectation drops, the patience increases. Try your hand at something different. Think it. Set it up. Wait. Release. Just hold, don’t fight, don’t force, just hold and release with the right answer. It’s a magic way to train. Your horse will thank you.

We are always waaaay harder on ourselves than we should be. And it isn’t good for us at all. Take a day (Make it a choice and action it) and choose only positive recognition for the things you do. Consciously change the negative self talk to the opposite of what your head said - just for today. Make a note of how hard you are on yourself, and start to find things to be nice about!! It’s a good start to just say ‘good job’. But really look for the best in a situation and focus on that for a bit. We could all use more support - let’s start with ourselves.

Community and the feeling of having someone that has your back is the heart and soul of horsemanship. This journey is hard enough, but without support it’s almost unbearable. Having the right people helps so much. What your favourite thing to do with friends and horses?

Today it’s the start of a change of pace for me. I plan on doing things differently this year. It’s a time to change and what better day to start. So here on day one I will share with you the way I incorporate change. It’s a little woo woo so if you’re not into being open this isn’t the space for you. Being vulnerable here so bear with me, it’s a hard thing to put into words, and I’m sure some things will be lost in translation, but here goes…. Who am I - the biggest question of all. And a simple one to answer from a space of soul. But let’s turn up the heat and ask it from egos perspective. So in my first session of the year I got a huge, and I mean huge, awakening. Ego - I am of service (ok that’s not a bad thing), below others so I must give (now that’s not so nice) and as a giver I don’t deserve to receive (ok now that’ really feels bad). Let’s look at the energy behind receiving…. And I really start to squirm - literally pulling away and trying to leave - I am so repelled by the thought of receiving (now we ask why and when this became my vibration) It’s in my throat and upper chest, like a weight, it’s thick and heavy and very, very negative. It hasn’t always been there, it’s new in this lifetime. It’s a choice (by soul??) yes by soul. (A punishment?) no an experience. (The lesson?) With wealth we give frivolously, without thought for how the receiver feels. We give to make ourselves feel good, better even, and to help without attachment. (Please remember this is my personal experience in a past life, not the truth) I’ll clarify here, my past life feels like I’m in a castle or some sort of noble place and I am from family generational money. So here (now) I have to give thru service (not wealth) and the negativity in receiving forces me to continue to give without receiving !!!! (Those who know me know this to be true. And know that I really struggle to receive) So to change this vibration I need a truth, and it’s only a truth for me (so it may not be for you) and it’s often hard to find. So I have to ask questions here till I feel a shift. That shift only comes when you have a realisation of a belief that doesn’t serve you ….

So many people look to build their confidence with bravery when they come to a clinic or lessons. But the truth is you don’t need to be brave to be confident. In fact trying to be brave can often knock confidence. Confidence comes when you have answers. When you know what to do next. When you have done something enough that it becomes easy. Horses are predictable - when you know them well - so time builds confidence. Practice builds confidence. Find the people that help you with the answers. Just pushing thru won’t always cut it. You need to know what, why, when.