Hi everyone. Have you ever been the rebound guy/girl? Did your then partner go back to his/her ex? How did you cope and what happened then? What areas of your spirituality needed improvement to overcome this situation? This will be a very long post, you can stop reading here and only answer these questions if you want! Here's a little bit of my story. I (29 yo) met this girl, let's call her E (25 yo), 8 months ago. We were both recently single. My break-up with my ex of 7 years happened after a year and a half of reflexion and hard work to overcome the issues we were facing (to keep it short, it was a very healthy breakup and we are still best friends since then). E, on the other hand, had just been left by her ex partner of 4 years with whom she had a long distance relationship, without a lot of explanation. He said he had to focus on his PhD and couldn't with her around. We immediately got close together, and agreed that our relationship should just stay something non serious, without attachment. The thing is it was more than just s*x and after 3 months, when her ex got back to her "just to talk" and she realised she was still in love with him, she decided we should stop seeing each other and we both realised we got attached. A week after that, she came back to me after realising her ex wasn't sure about their relationship and his love for her. Back then, I wasn't too attached and could understand that she needed disclosure to move on, and thought that was what she got. I told her that I could totally understand that she was still in love, but would not accept her if she wasn't willing to move on and if our relationship wasn't going to be serious. She agreed and told me she had strong feelings for me. 4 months have passed, and she started to pull away, saying she feels guilty for still thinking about her ex, and she was lost with her feelings towards me. We agreed on giving time to each other and to part for 2-3 weeks. I spent these weeks doing active work on detachment and letting go. I was feeling better and decided not to engage with her and just spend time with her without expecting any commitment. The thing is, during this time, she sent a letter to her ex telling him to either give her disclosure or get back with her. I told her that she put herself in a difficult situation of expecting his answer and to think about what she would do according to his potential answer. She tried, but told me after 2 weeks that she wasn't sure if she would find the strength to say no if he apologetically gets back to her. I said to her that I got it, and that I would start detaching.

the first things you noticed after breaking free. Whether it's newfound peace, rediscovering yourself, or simply the small joys of everyday life, what was you specific hardest part from getting out of it?

I’m going to be honest, I ghost when I feel an energy shift from anyone. I don’t give explanations. I leave and never return never to be seen or heard from again. I never felt guilty about it because I always say it’s for my peace. But it’s like I kept attracting the same situation over and over again. Same Spirit different vessel. 😩🥺 As soon as I moved I met someone with the same energy. Again I cut it off but this time I actually said something. It was like a breakup. Although it was a “friendship” I said I don’t think we should see each other anymore because I don’t think we click and I appreciated the times spent although it was only a handful of times. And then blocked. But she’s did show me nice places to go and I learned about myself and about my parenting because she is also a mom. I feel li got what I needed with such a short interaction. But I feel the energy drain. I haven been sleeping because I feel her pull. I thought it would stop because for the first time ever I got the courage and strength to actually say goodbye. But idk what it is with me that whenever this happens. Their energy lingers. Like an obsession. I feel their thoughts. I feel their wonder of what I am doing where I am going. It feels like stalker energy. And what’s worse is that even my children feel it. It’s like a psychic attack and because my children are an extension of my energy it’s like she tries to get at them since it’s more difficult to get at me. And it enrages me when anyone messes with my children that I feel the darker side of me want to come out. I’ve done cleanses and baths and prayers but it’s like The challenge makes em come in even stronger. And it’s really draining trying to elevate but also being pulled down at the same time. Has anyone ever experienced this? What have you done? I’m not confrontational I’m not a fighter It’s just not in me. As much as sometimes I want to give people a taste of their own medicine sometimes. I literally cannot like I just can’t. The God in me won’t. Because I see the God in them even if they don’t.

How do you stop fighting for your life?

Hello, I’ve been a part of this community for about 9 days now and I’m in the process of doing the High Vibe 101 course and I started having some blocks. What I mean is that I live with a family that already think I’m not normal and I’m weird and so I have this block that I don’t feel comfortable enough to do the breathwork ceremony when they’re in the house (and there is ALWAYS someone in the house with me). I’m afraid that they’ll laugh at me and tell the rest of the family how crazy I am like they always do and stuff, they already tend to laugh at me when I’m meditating, talking about spiritual stuff or working out (it took me a while to be comfortable enough to work out around them but I still feel uncertain while they’re around) so I really don’t know what to do about that. The same block I have with grounding because I’d love to go barefoot on a grass or hug a tree but I l’m afraid people will be talking about me and thinking I’m crazy because there is always someone in the places where there’s nature in my city (even though it’s not that big of a problem to me comparing to the problem above). I hope you’ll give me some advice to overcome my fear of being seen as a crazy/stupid person, love you all ❤️🙏