A lot of you think girls keep walking because they’re not interested. Sometimes that’s true. But a LOT of the time it’s something else. You never actually started the interaction properly. You’re standing on the side of her. Walking beside her. Half turning your body while talking. The interaction never ACTUALLY locks in. So what happens? The energy of the interaction starts leaking out the door. Because you never fully closed the door in the first place. Now she does that thing you’ve all seen. She looks like she’s about to stop… Then suddenly she’s walking again. Then two seconds later she’s gone. Guys always interpret that as rejection. But often what’s really happening is this: The interaction never felt grounded. When you approach a girl you should square up properly. Step in front of her. Face her. Chest facing chest. Not aggressive. Not invading space. But clearly present. And importantly… You are not standing side by side with her. You are not walking and talking. You are not half turned. When you square up, the interaction actually starts. The energy stops leaking. Now there is a contained interaction between two people. This is something most guys don’t realise. Male to male, squaring up can signal confrontation. Two guys face each other and it can feel tense. But male to female… It actually does the opposite. It creates clarity and safety. Because she can clearly see: • where you are • what you’re doing • what the interaction is What actually feels unsettling for a girl is when a guy is hovering beside her or talking while walking. That feels uncertain. And uncertainty makes people want to exit the situation quickly. So she instinctively keeps moving. And suddenly the interaction is over. ⚙️ TL;DR If you’re going to stop a girl… Stop her properly. Square up. Man to woman. Nothing less. — Coach Marc

One of the most common excuses guys give themselves (and me, if we’re out on a session) is: “She was on the phone.” And? It’s actually a very workable situation if you know what you’re doing. Most guys see a phone and immediately disqualify the approach. High level game means approaching anyway. Not aggressively. Not awkwardly. Just calibrated. There are two main situations here 👇 📱 Earphones In If she has earphones in while walking, I’ll often mimic the action of taking them out myself. I’ll lightly gesture toward my ear like I’m removing an earphone and give a cheeky smile while doing it. Two important details: • You need to get in front of her so she can actually see the gesture • The smile makes it playful instead of intrusive Most of the time she’ll instinctively take one out and say: “Yeah?” That’s your opening. Now you’re in the interaction. 📞 Actively On A Phone Call If she’s walking fast and talking on the phone, the move is different. I’ll step slightly in front of her path and put my hand out gently to stop her. Then I simply say: “Hey… I know you’re on the phone.” That’s it. Nothing else. Now you wait. This is important. You’re not trying to talk over the call. You’re giving her the chance to decide if she wants to pause the call and engage with you. And surprisingly often… she will. She’ll say something like: “Sorry, give me a second.” Or “Yeah what’s up?” Now the conversation begins. ⚙️ Key Principle CAPABLE MEN don’t WAIT for perfect conditions. They calibrate to the situation and still take action. A phone is not a barrier. It’s just another variable to navigate. And the more you approach in imperfect situations like this… the sharper your game becomes. Happy friday. NOTE: Make sure all of you are tuned in for the group Q&A call tomorrow at 5:30 pm. I’ll be dropping game and you can ask me any cold approach related questions on that call. — Coach M