As'salaam alaykum sisters. I think I’d approach this by being very clear from the beginning that my income is mine, and I would never earn with the expectation that my husband is entitled to it. If he genuinely fell into hardship, though, I’d want to be able to contribute out of love, mercy and partnership, not because it had become an obligation. Islamically, a woman is not required to financially provide for her husband or family simply because she earns more. I also think we have to acknowledge that a man’s ego or sense of responsibility can sometimes be affected when his wife earns more or financially fills a gap. Not every man will feel this way, but for some men it may feel culturally uncomfortable, even if they appreciate the help. In some cultures, the idea of the wife becoming the one who financially “rescues” the family may simply not sit well with a man’s understanding of marriage and his role as a husband. That’s why I think these conversations are worth having early on, rather than assuming everything will work itself out after marriage. I’d ask questions like: “How do you view your wife working?” “If she earns more than you, would that affect how you feel?” “If you were going through financial difficulty, how would you feel about your wife voluntarily helping?” And perhaps more importantly: “In today's fast-paced and financially difficult society, if circumstances became challenging, how would you approach providing for your family? And how would you feel if your wife was able to help you through that period?” Because someone can genuinely intend to provide at the beginning and then circumstances, expectations or attitudes can change later. You’re never going to get a 100% guarantee, but you can look for consistency between his words, his character and how he behaves around money and responsibility. I’d also want to distinguish between a husband wanting his wife to contribute and a husband being grateful if she chooses to. Those are two very different expectations. I wouldn’t want to marry someone who secretly sees my income as part of the household budget and then becomes disappointed if I don't use it that way.

@Aseel Himeidan Ameen ya Rabb! 🤲✨ Honestly, love this reflection so much, you hit the nail right on the head. That feeling when you dive deeper into Islam and realise you’ve barely even scratched the surface is so humbling. Alhamdulillah for a faith that actually encourages us to think and ask questions. Having answers that actually make sense and align with both logic and the soul is such a massive blessing... seriously don't know where we'd be without it. And what you said about the Names of Allah is spot on. Allah reminds us of His favours because every single blessing originates from Him. When we give, we’re literally just passing along what He (SWT) gave us in the first place! And you are right, we must always keep checking our intentions - trying to give freely without guilt-tripping people is where real spiritual growth happens. It forces you to check your heart and do things purely for Him rather than human recognition. Human recognition is fleeting, but the reward with Allah is eternal. Trying to chase people's approval is a trap anyway, because at the end of the day, pleasing people at the expense of what's right never works out. It reminds me of that powerful advice 'Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) wrote to Mu'awiyah in Jami at-Tirmidhi: Chapter: The Punishment Of The One Who Seeks The People's Pleasure By Allah's Wrath And The Opposite 'Abdul-Wahhab bin Al-Ward narrated from a man among the inhabitants of Al-Madinah who said: "Mu'awiyah wrote a letter to 'Aishah, that: 'Write a letter to advise me , and do not overburden me.'" He said: "So 'Aishah [may Allah be pleased with her]wrote to Mu'awiyah: 'Peace be upon you. As for what follows: Indeed I heard the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) saying: Whoever seeks Allah's pleasure by the people's wrath, Allah will suffice him from the people. And who ever seeks the people's pleasure by Allah's wrath, Allah will entrust him to the people. And Peace be upon you.'"

@Mehrin Ali جزاك الله خيرا

Wa alaykum as-salaam sis. 🤍 I have a bit of experience on apps, though not directly with Muzz itself. Firstly, I love how intentional and sincere your profile comes across. It really reflects that you're approaching marriage with the right intention, seeking something halal and centred around deen. May Allah bless your efforts and grant you a righteous spouse. Ameen. If I could offer one gentle piece of feedback, I'd say show a little more of you rather than listing your qualities and what you're looking for. Your profile reads a bit like a CV at times, whereas people often connect more with personality than a checklist. For example, instead of saying you're improvement-driven or that you value excellence, you could weave those qualities into how you live your life. Mentioning your goal of memorising the Qur'an, your love of learning languages and cultures, or enjoying nature already paints a picture of who you are without having to state it directly. I'd also be a little cautious about describing your ideal husband in too much detail. While it's good to have standards, giving a long list can sometimes make it easier for someone to simply mirror back what you've written rather than showing who they genuinely are. It can be more beneficial to let those qualities reveal themselves naturally through conversation and actions. Finally, I'd consider shortening the profile slightly. I know I mad the mistake in the start of having a really long profile and honestly most brothers really don't want to read a lot and so tend to skip past it altogether. Sometimes leaving a little mystery invites meaningful conversation. You don't have to tell your whole story in your bio, the right person will enjoy discovering it through halal conversations with family involvement. Overall, I think it's a lovely foundation, and with a few tweaks it'll feel even more natural and authentic, in shaa Allah. May Allah put barakah in your search and grant you someone who loves you for who you truly are and helps you grow closer to Him. Ameen. 🤍

@Mehrin Ali you're welcome. Barakallahu Feeki.

SubhanAllah, I just realised I have seen another example of how Allah SWT works in such beautiful ways - I started a new job last week but my days off are Tuesdays, Alhamdhullilah. I will try my best to attend insha'Allah.

For me, one non-negotiable is an inability to compromise. I think it’s so important that two people are willing to meet each other halfway, because marriage inevitably involves change, growth, and seasons where both people will have different needs, perspectives, and circumstances. Compromise doesn’t mean abandoning your values or compromising on your deen. It means being willing to listen, understand your spouse’s perspective, adjust where appropriate, and sometimes prioritise the relationship over simply getting your own way. If someone is completely unwilling to compromise, I think it can become very difficult to grow together rather than grow apart. You’re both going to change throughout 10, 20, 30+ years of marriage, so having the humility and flexibility to navigate those changes together is incredibly important. 🤍

@Aseel Himeidan I completely agree. I think stinginess, particularly in a Muslim man, can extend far beyond money. It can show up in the way he gives his time, attention, affection, reassurance, kind words, emotional support, effort, generosity, and even willingness to show up for his wife when she needs him. And I think that’s what makes it such an important trait to look out for. A man can technically provide financially while still being incredibly emotionally stingy. He may be reluctant to give compliments, affection, reassurance, quality time, apologies, encouragement, or emotional vulnerability. Over time, that can leave a woman constantly feeling like she has to earn the bare minimum from her husband. I also think there can be a psychological and even physical impact when this becomes a persistent dynamic. Feeling chronically emotionally deprived, rejected, unsupported, or like a burden can contribute to stress, anxiety, low self-worth, emotional exhaustion, and difficulties with intimacy. When someone is constantly walking on eggshells or wondering whether their needs are “too much,” that stress doesn’t simply disappear because the relationship is legally a marriage. And I agree that it’s much broader than simply asking, “Is he generous with money?” I’d want to know: Is he generous with his presence? His patience? His words? His affection? His forgiveness? His effort? His time? His knowledge? His compassion? Obviously, generosity doesn't mean being reckless or having no boundaries. But there is a beautiful difference between being responsible with what Allah has given you and being miserly with it. May Allah SWT protect us from hearts that are hard and withholding, and grant us spouses who are generous in their deen, character, love, time, compassion, and provision. Ameen ya Rabb. 🤍