seeking advice on how to move on without resentment o regret
Hi All, New to the group, and looking forward to connecting with you all. Coach Drew / Community - I seem to have a reoccuring theme with all relationships male and or female. I love making people happy, and I guess with that comes a need to seek validation for my contributions which I guess impacts my self worth when I don't receive that validation. Work - as a Sales support engineer, it shows up in the form of my immediate supervisor not being happy or satisfied with not hitting sales targets, feeling like its put squarely on my shoulders vs. the sales team and I then get defensive, resentful and well difficult to deal with. I want the manager to be happy but his refusal to accept certain facts as true nad contributory. Fun - I play in a band... I do alot for the band and I love to entertain people and receive that validation from the audience. However, the band leader consistently pulls me aside and complains about details and musicianship from his perspective. I want him to be happy but am often conflicted with the response I am receiving from the venue and patrons. In each instance, I stay far two long rather than moving on from situations that are not mutually beneficial. I am often lost at how we got from I love you to, the passive aggressive behavior that typically ends these relationships, accept that things have changed and move on in a healthy way without resentment or regret.