Sometimes your loved one may say things that aren’t accurate. Accusations. Misunderstandings. Stories that didn’t happen. This can feel deeply personal, but it usually isn’t. The brain is trying to make sense of missing information. So it “fills in the blanks.” Instead of correcting the facts, try focusing on reassurance: “I’m here. You’re safe.” You’re responding to confusion, not teh apparent intent.

If your loved one follows you everywhere… you’re not imagining it. This is called shadowing. It can feel frustrating—or even suffocating at times. But underneath it is something important: They are trying to feel safe. As memory fades, you become their anchor in a confusing world. So when you leave the room, it can trigger anxiety. A small shift that can help: Instead of saying “I’ll be right back," try: “I’m going into the kitchen. You’re safe. I’ll come get you.” Clear + reassuring. Have you experienced this?

Caregiving is full of moments where you think: “Am I the only one dealing with this?” You’re not.

There’s a moment most caregivers don’t talk about. The moment when you realize: “This is harder than I thought it would be.” Not just physically. Emotionally. We’d love to hear from you, please... What has felt hardest lately? (No pressure to have the “right words.” Just real ones.)

One of the most exhausting parts of dementia caregiving is the REPETITION. The same question.Again and again. Even when you just answered it. This isn’t stubbornness. It's not intentional. It’s memory loss at work. The brain is no longer able to store the answer you just gave… so to them, it feels like the first time asking. That’s why correcting or reminding often doesn’t help, and can actually increase frustration. A simple shift that can help: Instead of explaining… try responding to the feeling underneath. “I’ve got it handled. You’re okay.” You’re not trying to fix the memory. You're helping them feel safe.