Have you noticed the gradual decline of “normal” in places that have historically been seen as the “standard” for modern living? At some point, we each decide where our energy goes. As it gets harder and harder to eek out a living for many, there are really only two main options: 1️⃣ Strive to get better at playing the ‘business as usual’ game 2️⃣ Get out of the game and strive to create new games more aligned with how life actually works Both involve striving. Which one leads to satisfaction? Yes, I AM speaking from privilege. I suspect that if you’re reading this, you have privilege, too. What would happen if we turned our fiery hunger for change inward, from being angry at what’s wrong outside to being compassionate towards what we find inside? Oh man, it’s instantly a completely different world! Ask me how I know. Why does this matter? We are all fortunate to live in a time of unprecedented global transition. If we can focus our energy on growing what’s life-affirming while removing our energy from what’s life-destroying, both in ourselves and in other beings, imagine what we could change! In community gatherings, we can support each other in doing just this, in whatever baby step makes sense. If you felt drawn to this idea, you are not alone. In gratitude, Deborah.

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So, what happens to our inner critic when we practice radical Self-ACTivation? They get a chance to experience something they probably don’t remember: zero pressure. They’re probably not going to enjoy the experience at first, and that’s ok. What if our inner critics could experience our non-judgmental, non-violent, accepting, trusting love? What would change for them? What could be possible for our ‘outer’ critics, if we treated them the same way? If we didn’t need them to be different from how they were being in that moment? If we could source the treatment we want within our Selves, and from the Higher Self that needs nothing from us? These are questions I sometimes sit in, sometimes dance with, every day. I notice my inner critic finding peace and solace, not judgment and rejection, these days, and it is an uncomfortable experience for her. I often quote the incredible formula I learned from Stella Eisenstein: Attention + Allowing = Miracles In our intimate community, we have participated in both Attention and Allowing challenges. In these challenges, we check in daily with contemplations like: 💭 What did I specifically observe? 💭 What wisdom (if any) came up that I can make note of? 💭 What was my biggest takeaway about my experience today? 💭 When did I notice myself resisting what wasn't according to my plans today? 💭 What wisdom did I gain from either my resistance or allowing? What could change for the world if just a few of us sat in these contemplations of curiosity, together? What would change for your team if you brought this curiosity to your meetings and encounters, replacing the fear-inducing performance drive of business as usual? If you long to build a culture and environment where these kinds of conversations, whether with yourself or with others, are common occurrences, know that you are in good company. In gratitude, Deborah.

“Ok, Deborah, I’ll bite. How do I close the gap between who I’m being and who I’m portraying myself to be?” So glad you asked. As a quick recap: the incongruency gap is what makes people promise the moon and stars and wince at bringing the groceries. You’ve been that person, you’ve also dealt with that person. Zero judgment. This is a natural phase in our growth and development as sovereign beings. And actually, zero judgment is where you start. Radical Self-ACTivation is the practice of 360 degree Self-Acceptance, Self-Compassion, and Self-Trust (ACT). It’s radical because it flies in the face of many, many practices common in ‘business as usual’. In fact, as simple as it is, the societal environment we are immersed in can make it look extreme. So, to close the gap between who you are being and who you want to be, want to be who you are being. No, this is not semantics. This is the secret few speak about in human development spaces. Our performance- and profit-driven ‘business as usual’ world poopoos on truly accepting ourselves. We’re encouraged to focus on outcomes and strive to make whatever changes necessary to be able to meet those expected outcomes. This keeps us in fear, because, have you seen life? How likely is it that you can create expected outcomes you made up in your head without valiant effort to control external conditions? It’s not going to happen. So then you’re shamed into believing that it’s a bad thing that you can’t control your life. You’re encouraged to push harder, set SMART goals, develop greater discipline. Society applauds feats of sheer willpower where humans push past their apparent physical limits to achieve the “impossible”. You literally are conditioned to believe that not listening to your body, putting ‘mind over matter’ and destroying our connection to natural safeguards – communicated limits and boundaries – is the goal. NO. Global villagers do not think this way. We Accept each and every part of ourselves as they present in each moment.

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