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Mental Load Basics
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5 contributions to Mental Load Basics
Oct '25 •
Day 1 (21 Day Challenge)
Share 3 things that had to be thought of first before they happened today 1. School lunches 2. Appointment change 3. Contacting home owner to make alterations
2 likes • Oct '25
1. Making sure computer was set up for a video appointment 2. What groceries we needed for dinner 3. Setting up spare room at a non disruptive time
0 likes • Oct '25
@Deanna Greyoak thank you
Feb '25 •
What part of the world are you here from?
If you’re open to it I’d love to hear what your family looks like too?
2 likes • Sep '25
UK, married for 10 years, USA wife and UK husband. 1 son aged 3(nearly 4) and a small dog. We have previously lived in China for 7 years
1 like • Oct '25
@Deanna Greyoak not well haha enough to get by but it has been many years since I’ve used Chinese
Oct '25 •
Day 2- 21 Day challenge
Physical - pulled up old flooring and put into trash Cognitive thought about the air quality and dust flying around, realized I would need to put cats in a different area so I could keep the windows open and bring their littler box down Emotional- respond calmly when our child really struggled upon me flushing the toilet rather than them, and being kind and compassionate in that moment.
2 likes • Oct '25
Physical- took my 3 year old with me on errands and had now coin for a trolley. Had to carry all shopping and navigate store. Cognitive- took ownership of cooking for the week and planned meals/ checked cupboards for what is missing Emotional- had long talk with my partner regarding what we want for the future and how working on ourselves will benefit everyone in both positive and negative ways
Feb '25 •
How far into the Fair Play Method Are you?
Hearing for first time? Have the book, gathering dust? Started, stopped Read a fair amount, haven’t implemented cards Had 1 talk with cards, and never revisited? Revisiting consistently
1 like • Oct '25
I have bought the book and started reading it. My wife said that she had mentioned this book in the past and I hadn’t shown interest. I am hoping that it is something we can work through together
Sep '25 •
Introduction
👋 Hi, I’m David! I live in Buxton, UK. I am nervous but hopeful to join this community and better understand my partner’s mental load. I want to get these 3 things from the community: 1. Tools to increase my mental load and acknowledge my partners mental load 2. Increase my compassion and empathy for my partner 3. Become a better listener and equal in my relationship Some things that my partner fell in love with me for: 1. Being steadfast and supportive 2. Our joint sense of humor 3. My confidence in our future (this has dwindled severely and she no longer trusts me and feels like I am coasting. I want to regain my confidence and set myself new life goals)
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@david-starkey-9738
I’m 34, British and have been married for 10 years. Together we have 1 child aged 3 and a dog.
Active 2d ago
Joined Sep 30, 2025
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