Hey guys it’s been awhile since I’ve been on here and I’ve just been really struggling with keeping up consistency in general and in my relationship. I’m scared that because i haven’t been consistent in my word and promises I might lose everything please I need help and I don’t know where else to turn to..

Last night I posted a video about how I believe Weaponized Incompetence is an over-used somewhat often in-accurate term as I think often times we need to improve the way we are articulating our conversations about these things. I made a follow up video to have some nuanced conversation that I think is perfect for discourse in this community. I think the impact of these kinds of actions is really heavy for a lot of the women and many felt unseen in my analysis of the use of the word as it disregarded their experience of continued invalidation of invisible labor. This community is meant for us to come to the table and have tough conversations in here and be a safe space for people to have debate and understanding of each other.

My name is Davian, I’m new here and I’m here to better understand how to take the mental load off of my partner.