It's not your job to please everyone. If you continue to seek approval or need to be liked it tends to lower your sense of authenticity. If you've been known as a people pleaser, you have an attachment to other people's opinions. Imagine two tanks within you. One is the the love tank you fill for yourself, and another you fill by others. So many men, have such a hard time filling their own love tank from within that they put all their energy into getting it from others. When It doesn't come as anticipated, he takes a hit on a personal level. The root is a low self worth and self image. It can feel like a gut punch when you think you've done all the work and feel healed, only to get tested and see just how much it still impacts how one feels. I can speak to this on an expert level because I know this feeling on a very personal level. Sure, I have done a lot of work on myself, and have a pretty good ability to fill my own tank, and not be so attached to other people's opinion of me, but I am still not fully immune from taking a hit when others judge, criticize or misunderstand me. It's an on going learning curve. It takes the ability to get out of the ego and know that if I am coming from my truth and integrity, and I am doing the things that are congruent with my mission, then no matter how others perceive it is on them. They have a perception and comfort level of how you show up, so any change in your persona, any strength or a new energy shift within you, will take away the YOU they are comfortable with. At this point these people are your crabs in your bucket, people that continue to pull you down as you try to make your escape to a new reality. They need you to stay the same. Can you identify anyone in your life that shows up like this for you, when you try to change and/or take on a new, more empowered self? I have even heard that the more people don't like you or having "haters" means you are growing and making a bigger impact in the world. There's truth to this.

I'm not talking about someone's perception of you and how much they wold pay you. I'm referring to how much you value your own time? I was recently listening to one of my favourite mentors, Ed Mylett, and was talking about how everything changed for him once he started to value his time. It was an interesting listen because I got a revelation that was surprising to me. You see, I thought I valued my time a lot. However, recent habits, distractions, and lack of discipline in using my systems told me a different story. I realized there are still deep holes in my productivity and and how I structure my day. Yes, I have a schedule and Yes I have put systems in place to keep me on track, but I have to tell you, my inner saboteur, can get me off my game quickly. Social media being the biggest distraction. It knows what gets me pissed off and "passionate" about world events. It's like it likes to poke the bear and test me to see how detached and focused I can be. Ai is another rabbit hole too! That's why I am writing this "analog style", meaning I'm writing old school with my own fingers typing directly what's on my mind. Brother, we all have the same ticks on the clock. Whether it is Elon Musk, Alex Hormozi or Ed Mylett. They all have the same 24 hours in a day. And as the Remarkable Man that you are, you've got to get more intentional with your day. And yes, the excuses have to go! Remember this is a letter to me as much as it is for you. So I want to challenge you to chunk down your days. Rise one hour earlier, get your work out in or your meditation time in. When are you most productive? Then double down during that time. I'm writing this at 2 PM. This is my second long form article of the day because this is my creative time and I am in the zone! I cannot stop creating until 3PM. Then I will switch gears and record a video. You know yourself better than anyone. What does your day have to look like for you to have a victory 3 times a day? Then set yourself up so that you prioritize those victories. After I post this article...That's a victory!

I have to be straight up with you, I was not on board with Vancouver's being one of the Canadian cities to host the world cup. The outrageous expense and costs of prepping and hosting these games push the bill to near $1Billion. It's a financial legacy that could haunt the city for years to come. In fact, many hotels and venues were beginning to squirm with below 60% vacancy rates and poor ticket sales due to exorbitant prices. However, since the games started last week and event leading up to Canada's crushing win yesterday, Vancouver has been more alive than when we hosted the Olympics in 2010. The whole world is here and also watching. The city and surrounding areas are packed with tourists and game enthusiast. This is on par with the Calgary Stampede and the infectious city vibe that it has. I predict that Vancouver's net gain from this will be incredible. Showcasing the Jewel of the West Coast in all its splendour with incredible weather does not hurt either. I say all this because I was wrong to prejudge a situation. Plus, I also didn't see it succeeding. I didn't think many international fans would come. But have they ever! So it goes to show you that things can work out in spite of the pessimism and down playing I got caught up in. I'm glad I am wrong. I am happy for Vancouver, the fans, the businesses, and the legacy that will come from this. Where else can I see more optimism in my life? Where else could I be wrong about my outlook, and instead see the good that's possible? Have a Remarkable weekend Brother! Coach Dwayne

Have you ever been slammed with a cold, illness, or injury and felt guilty for taking time off or surrendering to it to heal and get better? I am going through that today. Got a bad head cold and thought I'd push through and get some things done that need to get done. But as I sit here in the coffee shop and blow my constantly running nose and sneeze intermittently, I realize I am not as creative or as present as I need to be. (Plus, I am sure I am not popular with the customers). As a result I have not been as focused or as effective as I should be. I have to follow my own teachings and surrender to it from a higher perspective. I've had a pretty rough month as my Step mom is in hospital with a brain bleed and rapidly declining mental capacity. She won't be coming home and needs to go to a nursing home for the rest of her days. which we don't think will be long. Plus, I am taking care of my 91 year old dad and helping my him navigate these difficult and uncertain waters. I'll have to get him into a retirement home soon as he can't be left on his own for long. So I think the stress of everything has lowered my immune system and wanting me to take some time to rest and relax and stop the constant "doing". That's hard for me as I am focused on a few tangents on the business front. But rest I must, or I an sense the Universe is going to create something much louder for me to pay attention to. If you are going though some health issues or tough times. It might be a sign to breathe, slow down and take stock of where you are at. Sure, you can try to "hustle" your way through it, but the body is a wonderful machine and it will let you know when you are running on empty. Pay attention to it so you are not left having to stall-out...or worse. It's okay. You'll recalibrate and come back even stronger soon enough. As soon as I press "Post", I'm going home and taking the rest of the day to look after myself, and trust that everything is perfectly timed and that I can also invite some ease and grace into the equation.

He did everything right. He listened to her. He heard her say, "I want a man that can share his emotions." A man who was connected to his heart, who was not afraid to show her the tender parts of himself. So he did. He opened up. He told her about his fears, his doubts, the weight he carried. He cried in front of her. He let her see the parts of himself he had never shown anyone. And for a moment it felt like the deepest connection he had ever experienced. Then something shifted. He could not name it at first. A subtle cooling. A slight change in the way she looked at him. Less reaching for him in the night. More distance across the dinner table. Less of the spark that had always been there before. He had done what she asked. He had been vulnerable. And it cost him something he could not get back. If you have lived any version of that story, this edition is for you. Because what happened to that man was not his fault. But it was entirely predictable. And almost nobody is honest enough to explain why. THE MAIN LESSON Let me start with something that will make some people uncomfortable. When a woman says she wants a man who is emotionally open, who shares his deepest feelings, who connects with her the way her best girlfriends do, she is telling you something true about what she thinks she wants. And she is also, without knowing it, asking you to do something that will quietly dismantle the very attraction that makes her want to be with you. This is not a criticism of women. It is an understanding of polarity and the natural laws of the universe of masculine/feminine energy. The dynamic that creates attraction between a man and a woman is not sameness. It is difference. It is the tension between masculine and feminine energy, the pull between two distinct forces that complement rather than mirror each other. A woman's feminine energy naturally moves toward expression, toward emotion, toward the processing of feeling in relationship with others. This is not weakness. It is one of the most beautiful things about the feminine. It is why women have deep friendships, profound emotional intelligence, and the capacity for connection that most men can only aspire to.