💕 Valentine’s Weekly Win - this week, let’s celebrate love. Those everyday choices to show up with patience, softness, and try again. Here’s a little something for you: Roses are red, Grass is sweet, Love isn’t ribbons, It’s four muddy feet. It’s the pause before pressure, The breath before ask, The try that they offer, When trust is the task. So for this weeks romantic Weekly Win, I’d love to know: What moment this week felt like love with your horses? A softer eye? A braver step? A quieter you? Drop your little love story below! 💝🐴✨🫶

✨ We recently spoke about Podcast Episode 32: Nobody is watching you and I thought it might be helpful to share how I actually apply that in real life these days. Especially at the stables. Barns can be wonderful places and they can also be emotionally charged ones. I’ve had periods in my life where certain people made my time with horses and my students feel incredibly heavy, even unbearable at times. 👉 I didn’t overcome that by changing them. 💪 I overcame it by changing me. I worked on: - my mental and physical fitness - learning to breathe properly - not overthinking - choosing who enters my circle carefully - setting boundaries and keeping them - not negotiating my value - showing up as my higher self, not my reactive self And I have a small ritual. There’s a quiet little place at the stables, slightly out of sight (see video & picture). Before I begin, I stand there for 1–5 minutes. I focus on: - my breathing - my posture - my plan for the day When I walk away, my head and chest are up. That’s intentional. If I see someone who used to raise the hairs on my neck, I tell myself: “Let them.” Then I count backwards — 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 and move on. No reaction. No story. No giving away my energy. Because my time with my horses and my students is ours. Not theirs. And I decided to refuse to let anyone rent space in my nervous system without permission anymore. Curious: Do you have any rituals that help you protect your space and energy at the barn or maybe at work or in public spaces ? 🐴✨🫶

...I’d love to invite you to share something. What are your dreams with horses, no matter how big, small, quiet, or bold? And I mean the real ones. Not just to spend time with them (which is beautiful), but the ones that stretch you a little. Because there is so much more available to us than just loving them and love, when paired with understanding and courage, can create extraordinary things. It's where magic and self-belief lives. Horses are incredibly intelligent.They are capable of so much when invited to use their brains. That's what I try to share for example across my socials. Liberty. Bridleless riding. Deep trust. Lightness. Good partnership. I find that sometimes my students shrink their dreams because they think they’re unrealistic. Sometimes they shrink them because they don’t believe yet that they're capable. I always think they are capable. No pressure coz I cannot make them see, only guide. But when they do realise what is possible, I am usually met with a huge wow and a smile that extends to the moon and back. Money can't buy that. 🤩 So tell me, if nothing was holding you back, what would you love to experience with your horse? This is a brave and safe space. Dream out loud 🐴✨🫶

✨ Something I help people change often and it’s a subtle one, is how often our feet give a very different message than what we think. For example: When asking a horse to move out on the lunge or stay out of their space, people are often walking backwards, and end up doing the opposite of what they intend. 👉 Why? Because walking backwards draws the horse in. It activates our magnetism which, by the way, is one of the real secrets of liberty when you know how to use it well. So instead of clarity, the horse receives: 🔹a push with one part of the 🔹body and a draw with another That conflict in the message can lead to horses becoming: 🔸dull 🔸unresponsive 🔸sticky 🔸pushy 🔸uninterested Not because they’re stubborn but because they’re trying to make sense of mixed information. Our feet matter. Where we step, how we step, and why we step communicates just as loudly as our hands, rope, or energy. It’s one of those small details that can completely change the feel of an interaction when we get it right. Curious to hear your thoughts: Have you ever noticed how changing your footwork changed your horse’s response? Zoë 🐴✨🫶

Let’s do a little weekly check-in 😊 What’s one win you’ve had this week - it could be something practical with your horse, or a change in how you’re thinking or approaching things? Sometimes the biggest progress isn’t what we do, but what we think. If you feel like sharing, drop it below. I’d love to hear it 🐴✨🫶