It was tough to decipher what I wanted at first and how it would affect me and my relationships. For me, I had the opposite problem where I had so many goals I couldn't keep track of them, eventually never hitting them. However, I think your and my problems are very similar in nature. Not knowing what you want because something seems "too tough" to hit or "too ambitious" is a goal in and of itself. Trying to find a goal you would do anything for made you aware of your surroundings and worried about the consequences of yourself and others of choosing your goals. I was too scared and worried about never hitting them. Your awareness and compassion is a quality that is amazing. Keeping others in your head is okay while deciding on what you want, but not choosing is a decision itself. I hope you find clarity through the community and through Bob's program on what that is for yourself. Following his tools has helped me in ways I can't describe, and I'm pumped for this skool program to meet people like you in similar predicaments to mine.