I went to services at the Center for Spiritual Living today. It’s not my usual Sunday rhythm, but a friend I wanted to spend time with asked me, so I said yes. The music was great, and the speaker was dynamic and timely. What stayed with me was a simple idea: how hard it is to change anything when you can’t yet see outside the box you’re in. I realized how often relationship uncertainty isn’t about not knowing what we want. It’s about trying to decide from inside a very small view. When you can’t see beyond the relationship box you’re in, uncertainty can start to feel endless. I know that feeling—the push–pull of wanting to leave and wanting to stay at the same time. It’s exhausting, and over time it can wear down your trust in yourself. One of the first questions I ask people when they come to me is simple: Can you see and imagine having the relationship you want? Not how to get there. Just whether you can imagine it at all. When the answer is no, that’s not a failure. It’s information. So I’m curious:Where are you wanting to say yes, while still not being able to see what saying yes will change?

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Welcome in — I’m really glad you’re here! To get the conversation going, I’d love to hear a little about you: - Where are you joining from? - One fun fact about you (keep it light — there’s no pressure to be deep) - What brought you here? A sentence or two is plenty. And if today is a listening day, that’s okay too. You’re welcome to read along and jump in when you’re ready. I’ll start us off in the comments. — Deborah 💛