If you don't know the kind of person I am and I don't know the kind of person you are a pattern that others made may prevail in the world and following the wrong god home we miss our star. For there is many a small betrayal in the mind, a shrug that lets the fragile sequence break sending with shouts the horrible errors of childhood storming out to play through the broken dyke. And as elephants parade holding each elephant's tail, but if one wanders the circus won't find the park I call it cruel and maybe the root of all cruelty to know what occurs but not recognize the fact. And so I appeal to a voice, to something shadowy a remote important region in all who talk: though we could fool each other, we should consider lest the parade of our mutual life gets lost in the dark. For it is important that awake people be awake, or a breaking line may discourage them back to sleep; the signals we give— yes or no, or maybe — should be clear; the darkness around us is deep. —William Stafford Hello my friends, I came across this really amazing poem the other day and I thought I would share it with you. Let me know how it lands on you and how you interpret it. I will weigh in a little bit more once I hear from a few of you. I don't think that I have ever read any of his work. Let me know if you're familiar with it.

If You Can’t Come Back, You Weren’t Initiated Subscribe to Substack Sign-up for the newsletter “Eroticism, may be said, is assenting to life up to the point of death.” — Georges Bataille I am reading Georges Bataille’s English translation of Erotism: Death and Sensuality, in which erotic desire is revealed not simply as pleasure or indulgence, but as a willingness to engage life with passion and risk, where the self loosens, taboos give way, and we skim the edge of death. Erotic authority is knowing how close to the edge you can go and having the Somatic intelligence to find your way back. There is a part of you that is not interested in being well-adjusted.It doesn’t want balance.It doesn’t want approval.It wants to feel more—even if that means flirting with the edge of annihilation. That part knows the truth most people spend their lives avoiding: the erotic isn’t polite. It isn’t safe. It doesn’t care about your spiritual vocabulary or your relationship agreements. It presses. It pulls. It asks whether you’re willing to loosen your grip on who you think you are. This is why people keep throwing themselves at peak experiences. Psychedelics. Tantra weekends. Kink and BDSM scenes that promise transformation. Religious devotion dressed up as transcendence. Extreme sports. Relationships that swear they’re about freedom. All of them whisper: Come here. Come closer. Dissolve. And, it works. You disappear just enough to feel alive. Then it’s over. The room empties. The drug wears off. The rope comes off. The altar is dismantled. And you’re back in your body, alone with a nervous system that has no idea what to do with what just happened. So you chase it again. This is where the erotic gets misunderstood. Not as sex, but as escape. Not as intimacy, but as transcendence without consequence. Without preparation. Without return.

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Relationship coach and sexuality educator Dakota Ramppen joins me to unpack that exact edge. We explore conscious monogamy, her CARE model (Clarity, Agreements, Realignment, Eroticism), and the difference between control and co‑creation in love. This one’s for anyone who’s tired of guessing what’s real in their body—and ready to bring truth, clarity, and erotic aliveness back into connection. https://youtu.be/zwH2sSOkA6M