If You Can’t Come Back, You Weren’t Initiated Subscribe to Substack Sign-up for the newsletter “Eroticism, may be said, is assenting to life up to the point of death.” — Georges Bataille I am reading Georges Bataille’s English translation of Erotism: Death and Sensuality, in which erotic desire is revealed not simply as pleasure or indulgence, but as a willingness to engage life with passion and risk, where the self loosens, taboos give way, and we skim the edge of death. Erotic authority is knowing how close to the edge you can go and having the Somatic intelligence to find your way back. There is a part of you that is not interested in being well-adjusted.It doesn’t want balance.It doesn’t want approval.It wants to feel more—even if that means flirting with the edge of annihilation. That part knows the truth most people spend their lives avoiding: the erotic isn’t polite. It isn’t safe. It doesn’t care about your spiritual vocabulary or your relationship agreements. It presses. It pulls. It asks whether you’re willing to loosen your grip on who you think you are. This is why people keep throwing themselves at peak experiences. Psychedelics. Tantra weekends. Kink and BDSM scenes that promise transformation. Religious devotion dressed up as transcendence. Extreme sports. Relationships that swear they’re about freedom. All of them whisper: Come here. Come closer. Dissolve. And, it works. You disappear just enough to feel alive. Then it’s over. The room empties. The drug wears off. The rope comes off. The altar is dismantled. And you’re back in your body, alone with a nervous system that has no idea what to do with what just happened. So you chase it again. This is where the erotic gets misunderstood. Not as sex, but as escape. Not as intimacy, but as transcendence without consequence. Without preparation. Without return.

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Relationship coach and sexuality educator Dakota Ramppen joins me to unpack that exact edge. We explore conscious monogamy, her CARE model (Clarity, Agreements, Realignment, Eroticism), and the difference between control and co‑creation in love. This one’s for anyone who’s tired of guessing what’s real in their body—and ready to bring truth, clarity, and erotic aliveness back into connection. https://youtu.be/zwH2sSOkA6M

Why Declarations Matter Most people start their mornings in reaction—emails, stress, headlines, to-do lists, cruel self-talk, despair, and dismay. By the time the day has begun, they’ve already surrendered authorship of their life. Words matter. The conversation we have with ourselves shapes our nervous system, our choices, and our relationships. That’s why I’ve taken Jim Rohn’s classic “10 Things You Must Tell Yourself Every Morning” and translated them into Somatic Pleasure Declarations: daily practices that root your intentions in the body, not just in thought. These are not affirmations to float in your head. They are invitations to feel, breathe, and embody. They anchor leadership, intimacy, and erotic sovereignty into your cells so that each day becomes a practice ground for the life you are here to create. The Somatic Pleasure Declarations 1. I respond from sensation, not reaction.I breathe into the gap between stimulus and response, feel my body, and choose action from awareness rather than reflex. 2. I claim authorship of my pleasure and happiness. No partner, teacher, or circumstance owns my joy—I create it through the choices I make in my body and relationships. 3. My body writes a new story each day.Past traumas or limits don’t dictate today’s sensations; I allow touch, breath, and awareness to open new futures. 4. I expand through novelty and integration.Every embodied practice—whether playful, erotic, or primal—is an opportunity to grow, refine, and evolve. 5. I am prepared to meet intensity with presence.Opportunities come as sensation, arousal, or challenge; I stay alert and grounded so I can meet them fully. 6. My body is my lifelong teacher.I invest in breath, movement, touch, and awareness as ongoing education that no one can strip away. 7. I turn toward embodied solutions.Instead of looping in stories or problems, I experiment somatically—shifting breath, posture, or touch to create new outcomes. 8. I build legacy through intimacy and eros.Each act of conscious touch, every practice of sovereignty, contributes to a meaningful life and lasting impact. 9. I savor what is, while expanding into more.Gratitude lands through sensation—receiving pleasure now while still cultivating new edges of desire and capacity. 10. Today, I embody the self I am becoming.Each breath, each choice in touch and presence, is an opportunity to close the gap between who I am and who I am called to be.