Cathy K

Today might be a "walking uphill" kind of day. But that doesn't mean we don't deserve to keep walking 🥰 Speaking from experience, I woke up with thoughts and feelings and fears etc... but I was able to grab my journal and say ok.. even if those fears come true, will it help me or harm me to become absorbed in them?? It is REALLLLLY challenging to do this by myself on a daily basis. Because I'm not by myself. Daughter is here. Which actually makes it harder. But that being said, my point is that even if I feel tired now and even maybe sore and confused etc... at least I know I did my morning routine. And that DOES feel better than NOT doing it. So, speaking to myself too, give yourself permission to have an "uphill" day. Give yourself permission to even have a "bad" day. But do NOT have that mean that you don't do the things that are good for you. I ALWAYS feel better when I try than when I don't. Even if I can't see it at the time. This is NOT saying to "push through" and keep harming yourself. This is saying if trauma or fear thoughts are stopping you in your tracks, and you were going to do something good for yourself (drink water, eat protein, be active, take a nap, etc), do NOT let the trauma pull you off I've started doing my qi gong on my patio. Yes a part of me is like can people see? And doesn't that say something..that I'm worried people will see me doing something GOOD for myself 🤯🥴 So therefore, I did it! And some tears even came (which is what I was afraid of), but I told myself tears can come but don't stop doing the thing I'm doing. Anyway, today might be an uphill day. That is ok. Still do what you can do for yourself, to SUPPORT yourself through it instead of punishing yourself 🥰 And if you already know and do this, that is definitely something to add to your gratitude list. I'm literally having to carve this out and it goes AGAINST everything I was programmed.. yet, I'm STILL doing it. Because the TRUTH is, we ALL deserve to be happy and healthy. Period.

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Cathy K

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@Laura Hansen thank you SO much!! I'm sending it right back to you 🥰🥰

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@Christa Lovas thank you so much! Honestly, what helps me is posting and saying how I'm feeling and sharing what I'm doing in the hopes it could help someone else! Also I've started a new type of Journaling after DECADES of massive resistance and it is incredible!! Yes it takes MASSIVE effort and I feel like that is so hard to explain to most people. But every time when I feel trapped, I ultimately remind myself there might be someone else out there who feels similar, and doesn't feel safe telling anyone etc. And I just think of like a school cafeteria and you see someone sitting alone. What can you do? You can BE the friend you desperately want 😇 So in my case, I was struggling really hard this morning.. and then I thought hey... what CAN you do? And I'm telling you, learning about adhd is proving to be a game changer for me! RSD can be utterly crippling. So every time I post on an uphill day, rather than what I used to do which is think I need to completely isolate, I am rewiring the horrible programming my "family" installed in me. And I'm at least possibly making someone else feel safe enough to do so or at least realize they are worthy, too. And that is worth it to me 🥰

Cathy K

Mar 8 •

Share your Wins

Streaks

Hi guys! I wanted to share some things that are helping me hold on during an extremely uncertain, sad, stressful etc time. I've realized that I'm a streaker 😁 could be adhd, ptsd, single mom-dom, or just a me-thing. But regardless, it WORKS for me!! That being said, today will be day 36(!!) in a row that I've done what I call my car routine. The car is the only semi-private, semi-safe place I have right now. But I can now say that while it still doesn't feel automatic or easy, it IS a good thing for me! I set a timer when I go in there and let myself FEEL for 10 minutes. Believe it or not this has taken a LOT of work to even get to that point. ESPECIALLY when my life isn't figured out yet and the never ending chores aren't "finished"😅🤣 After I had done that for a while, I added another what I'm calling "anchor": phone is turned OFF for the night by 10 pm every night. And it "sleeps" outside my bedroom. I did this for several reasons but one of them was that I kept falling asleep with earbuds in my ear. Ouch 😅 Last night was night 14 of that routine. From there, I've now added yoga (today will be day 5 of that streak) and breathwork (today will be day 4 of that streak) The reason I'm sharing all of this is not because I think it is impressive haha. I just truly feel that I've gone through what I have (and am still going through) for a reason. And I believe part of that reason is to BE the encouragement for others who are struggling. I got the book atomic habits and it actually reiterates a lot of what I'm doing But that helps the part of my brain(programming) that "doesn't believe stuff on the internet" haha. Anyway, I just wanted to share what is helping me. Not only to "hold on for dear life", but to truly build a foundation. If anyone else is trying to build a positive habit, I would love to support you! Love you guys!

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MILESTONE MOMENT!! today was the 60th day in a row of me going to my car 🥳 Also, I have broken through my "journaling" resistance!! 🥳🥳 I'm on day 6 of that streak!! Love you guys!!

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Hi guys! I wanted to say with deep gratitude that I have NOT broken my "car streak!"🤯 Today was Day 64 of the car streak! I've also broken through my Journaling phobia! Today is day 10 of the Journaling! I am dealing with intense and deep grief, shock, health issues, potential brain damage.. But I'm sharing this because I haven't given up.. And I don't want you to, either. Love you guys! Keep going 🥰

Cathy K

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Shadow work/innerChild Healing

I don't know who needs to hear this...

But it helped me tremendously this morning when it came to me, and I feel called to share in case it could help someone else. I've decided to slightly tweak the wording I'm telling myself from "I'm healing" (which I need to and I AM...) to "I'm upgrading my programming" I feel like the latter has so much more hope to it, without denying the pain that was caused in the first place. It validates our pain without making us stay there forever. And it validates why it takes me a LOT of effort to feel certain things others might get to take for granted. Such as safety. But again, it isn't saying that "because I received this programming, I am doomed to live in it forever." It ALSO isn't saying "this life is my fault". Because if you genuinely KNOW you are doing the absolute best you can, then it isnt your fault! But the exciting thing is there are things we can do to upgrade that programming, so that we CAN change our experience of living! I hope this gives even a glimmer of hope to someone that there IS hope! I love you!!

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@Loraine Kelly you are right. But again, if we are in a space that we aren't even sure HOW to love ourselves because we were never shown that.. it is confusing and hard. That being said, with this new mindset of "I'm upgrading my programming" it allows me to authentically keep trying, authentically try tools, keep learning etc.

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@Dais Lussier yes jt is. And tools can help us learn what our mindset is and how to optimize it 😁

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Feb 23 •

General discussion

heard of this weird phenomenon?

Have you ever noticed the more you want certain things the more you energetically “push” them away? And why is it when you finally let go and are good either way… or you forgot about it… THEN it comes into your life? I was speaking to a friend yesterday who said she has been trying to have a baby with her husband for 2 years now They do all the things… Mainly the obvious one… but also all the other things to increase the likelihood of it happening And yet they have yet to have a baby This leaves them frustrated and feeling like there is something wrong Their desire for a baby is so strong it affects their energy and day to day life I shared with her a few stories I’ve heard from clients and other people that had similar challenges and then eventually got pregnant or had a baby There's a well-known phenomenon where couples who've struggled with infertility, after releasing the pressure and choosing to adopt, suddenly find themselves pregnant shortly after What is happening there? Could it be that in the energy of being parents… they release the need and then their nervous systems relax? Could it be that their adopted baby was meant to be in their life as the oldest and then following kids are meant to come after? Who knows the spiritual implications however when giving something up to the divine or God… I believe it is the best way to release resistance and pressure My friend said that she always KNEW she would adopt… and her husband was on board too... They just figured they should try now while the timing seemed “right” To me it was clear to see that since they always wanted to adopt regardless of if they had kids or not… maybe they could go into that now and then the pressure would release and who knows… Shortly afterwards she could become pregnant! Anyways today's message of the day is to realize you can let go and give it up to the divine… Letting go of resistance is the key to feeling lighter and more free And a more regulated nervous system!

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Yes... after a near-death experience with unexpected emergency surgery over Christmas "break"... I had a moment where the physical pain was SO bad and they couldn't give me pain meds because my blood pressure was too low etc... where I HAD to let go. I HAD to zero in and literally focus on taking one breath after another and that is IT. It was absolutely terrifying, realizing I could die at any second, and the FACT was, no one was there. Any "attachments" I had or wanted were not there. None. And after that extremely dark realization... I felt the biggest wave of peace and freedom. I felt so LIGHT. I felt so AWARE. I felt FREE. This is hard to admit, but since then, I have gone "back" to wanting attachments. Wanting community etc. However, one life-changing thing I'm doing, and today was day 23 in a row of doing it despite every obstacle, is i now go to my car in the morning. EVERY morning possible. When EVERY crutch is taken from you, including even taking a walk.. yet you still don't want to take your pain out on your kid... this is what I came up with out of pure necessity. What have I discovered by doing this? The root of the pain. I've discovered i need to grieve a LOT. I've discovered i need to live a new normal. I've discovered that by providing myself this outlet every day, it is a way for ME to exist EVERY day. And when you go weeks without seeing a soul besides your daughter.. and you have cptsd and an unsafe ex and no family support etc.. it is IMPERATIVE that you still show up for YOURSELF. So all of that to say, by choosing this, I have HAD to let go of a lot. I realized I don't even know what direction my life will take. But *I* need to matter, too. Also, I got the book Atomic Habits this week and tore through it, and that is helping to ground what I'm already doing and structure it. I've also begun emdr, and my first target statement is "it isnt safe to tell the truth" meaning it isnt safe to ask for help. This ALL began, the actual healing part, when I realized I had been taught very harshly that I'm not allowed to have emotions.

Cathy K

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@Lee Simmons love this!!

Cathy K

Dec '25 •

Shadow work/innerChild Healing

Today is a NEW day 🥰

Good morning! As 2025 draws to a close (what??🤯😅), there are certain things I want to leave behind in 2025. The biggest one by far for me is self criticism. I've been continuing to do a LOT of work every day on noticing unhealthy patterns and identifying where they came from etc. And the bottom line is, these thoughts that try to keep me down aren't even mine!! They're from faulty programming to say the least. It is a process but I'm glad to be in it because that means change IS happening! What is one thing you want to leave behind in 2025? Let's take out the garbage so we can be more FREE in 2026😍

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https://www.skool.com/the-conquerors-9155/about?ref=57f2719957944ca59dc5d4ecedfea4b9 The Conquerors!! Let's DO this thing!😁🥰🥳💖🤟🙌🧠💪

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