𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗦 𝗢𝗡𝗘'𝗦 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗣𝗜𝗦𝗦 𝗧𝗔𝗞𝗘𝗥𝗦. 𝗨 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪 𝗪𝗛𝗢 𝗨 𝗔𝗥𝗘… I am kind. I am PROUD AF to be kind. it is one of the things I like most about myself and I will never eva apologise for it duh… but I need to talk about something that don’t get said an awful lot in business… because there are peeps out there who see kindness and think… easy target. (Well they dont quite think those words maybe, but u get the gist) and I've had enough of staying quiet about it….LFG 𝗶𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀… - u extend a payment plan because someone's going through something and ur beautiful damn luvly July heart says help them… and then one day they just… stop. no message. no explanation. just gone. and ur sat there holding the bill for ur own generosity grrrr - it looks like a 60 minute call that becomes 2 hours 17 mins because u big time care and u don't wanna to cut them off… and they start expecting 2 hours every time without ever acknowledging what ur giving. - it looks like replying at all hours because ur passionate overload and u care about their result duh… and suddenly ur available 24/7 whether u agreed to that or not. - it looks like doing extra work outside the scope because u WANT them to succeed obvs… and watching that extra effort get taken for granted so quietly u almost don't notice until ur burning out. - it looks like saying "pay me when u can" because u trust someone… and learning that trust meant absolutely nothing to them… - it looks like going above and beyond. again. and again. and again. and one day realising they don't even fricken notice anymore because ur generosity has become their standard… - it looks like overriding ur gut because u wanted to see the best in someone… ignoring the red flags because u totes believed in their potential… staying way past the point u should have left because ur not a quitter and u don't give up on people. - it looks like vouching for someone to ur network and watching them let u down.

Most people only dare share the screenshots of the full room… The packed out lives… the sold out events… the comments going absolutely popity pop And look… I totes get it… those feel like the wins worth shouting about… 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗜 𝗰𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼𝗼… 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲'𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝘆… This morning nobody was live… literally not a single damn body… and I showed up anyway… hit record… brought everything I had… got proper giddy about it like the room was absolutely rammed… And here's the bit I want you to actually hear… That voice… the one that would've shown up a few years ago going fck this… nobody cares… you suck… go buy a coconut cake and sack the whole day off… It didn't come. Not even a little bit. 𝗖𝗢𝗭 𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗩𝗢𝗜𝗖𝗘 𝗜𝗦 𝗟𝗬𝗜𝗡𝗚 And THAT is the shift worth talking about… because it didn't happen overnight… it happened because I kept showing up to the empty rooms anyway… until my brain finally got the memo that this isn't about who's watching… Because can we be dead honest for a sec obvs… everyone has had an empty room… or a hundred… everyone has gone live and sat there going… hello… anyone… 😂,and if you're sat there going not me… cough cough…BS 😂 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝘂𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘂𝗽… 𝗠𝗔𝗧𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗦. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝘄𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲𝘀… 𝗠𝗔𝗧𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗦. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗼𝗳 𝗱𝗮𝘄𝗻 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗕𝗮𝗹𝗶 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗶𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗻𝗼𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆'𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗲𝘁… 𝗛𝗘𝗟𝗟𝗢… 𝗠𝗔𝗧𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗦. Because showing up fully when nobody's watching… That's not failure… That's character. That's SPINE. And THAT is what we're building in here… 𝗘𝗣𝗜𝗖 𝗛𝗨𝗠𝗔𝗡𝗦 who show up even when nowt's happening yet… who bring the full energy even when the room's empty… who do the work because the work matters… not because someone's keeping score… So yeah… I'm celebrating the empty rooms FCK YEP WOOP Because every single one is proof you're not doing it for the numbers… You're doing it because it TOTES matters a damn fricken lot… And that's everything Now tell me honestly… no performing… no sharing what makes ya look good… 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁'𝘀 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗻𝗼𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘄𝘀 𝘂𝗽… 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝘆… 𝗱𝗿𝗼𝗽 𝗶𝘁…

I am still a Facebook gurl deep down, aka Frank... We could be friends on there too, what ya reckon?

Right, here’s another thing that really gripes my monkeys. I don’t even have monkeys. But if I did, they’d be GRIPED... Let’s say you join a business community. You join because you wanna connect with EPIC business HUMANS. You wanna have proper conversations about your business. You want support. You want insight. You want tips and tools that will actually HELP you move the needle… So tell me… What is the point when the owner of the group just asks meaningless, filler questions. All. The. Effin’. Time.HMMM Now before anyone gets twitchy, OBVS I love fun. I love banter. I love being human. I will 100% drop a dog pic and a daft GIF. I am not anti-FUN at all I am anti-surface-level-noise-dressed-up-as-community. “Do you prefer a daisy or a lily?” HELLO? “If you have a business say hi.” Duh. Why else are we here? “How many coffees have you had today?” Groundbreaking. And again, I’m not quoting anyone here... You KNOW the vibe. The constant engagement-bait loop that makes you feel busy but not better. And this is the bit where I put my leader hat on… If I join a BUSINESS space, I want substance. I want someone to challenge me. I want conversations that shift something. I want momentum. I want growth Not “pick a flower and comment below” on repeat. FUN is great. (I love fun) Filler as a strategy? (always) Not for me. Because here’s the thing, content should spark conversation. Conversation should build connection. Connection should build community. And community should move you forward. Not keep you busy…pffffftt If it’s not moving anyone forward, what are we actually doing? The eyes are rollin HARD What do you reckon? P.S - This is exactly why The BACKROOM exists. Yes, we woop. Yes, we wobble. HELLO Yes, there’s sarcasm and dog energy and the occasional swear word. But it’s mostly business. Confidence. Voice. Saying the thing you actually wanna say. its where the real sh*t gets said, getting feedback. growing some balls (metaphorical or otherwise). Doing the work.

I’m just going to say it as it is… I’ve spent YEARS with my skin going up and down. Years. Trying things. Not trying things. Stress. Hormones. Life. And I finally got to a place where I’m actually happy. It is what it is. So please, nobody come at me with advice. Try this. Try that. Have you thought about this cream, this supplement, this whatever. That is NOT what this is about. My skin is my skin. I fully accept it. It’s a combination of things. And right now, it is SO much better than what it was. So, so much better. I’m genuinely happy in myself. I’ve done a LOT of work on loving myself as I am.I love my quirks.I love my weirdness. My tattoos my piercings are my little bits of jewellery on my body and my face. I’m all for them. I love tattoos and piercings on other people, and yes, I love the piercings on my own face too. And then… to put a post out and have seven vile, disgusting men all hype each other up for absolutely NO FUCKING REASON with nasty remarks like this. Honestly? Very sad.Very, very sad people. And here’s the bit that hurts… It takes me straight back to my childhood. Being bullied. Being picked on just for being small. Literally for being small. That was enough back then. And it pulls that feeling right back up. So yeah, I’m feeling RAW right now. Really raw. I don’t want sympathy. I’m not asking for it. I want to expose this kind of behaviour. Yes, I’m bitter about it. Because nasty people are FUCKING NASTY and the world does not need more of this shit. If you know me, you know one of my mottos in life is “may all beings be happy.” Humans. Animals. Everything. Kindness is such a simple act. And when someone can’t even manage that, it genuinely breaks my heart. So I’m calling it out.I’m saying it as it is.I’m not polishing this. I’m feeling very raw and very vulnerable right now. BE KIND - that’s all ❤️ shared here on FB