Beautiful @Ahmad Ignite - I'm also focusing on listening more deeply... And feeling the gratitude of the richness and beauty of the unknown that's just on the other side of that listening...

We recently made a decision to put an offer on a house even though we aren't quite ready to move and the timing is less than ideal from the perspective of everything else going on. My decision making style emphasizes considered over intuitive and collaborative over directive, and I can definitely see how they played a role. I heard the opinion of at least 3 or 4 other people in addition to my partner before I felt certain what to do, and ultimately wasn't comfortable unless I knew my partner was 100% on board. I have been a bit pushy in the past, so I was on guard to make sure I wasn't unconsciously railroading the decision (focusing on a collaborative decision). Also, I looked at market data and did research on the area, real estate market trends, comparables, weather patterns, etc. before settling on the offer. We didn't get the house - but it was a clear example of considered, collaborative decision making from my point of view, even though we had to make the decision relatively quickly...

@Ahmad Ignite Thank you. As an update, we found a different house a few months later when we both felt ready and I we are both incredibly happy with it. After 21 years in the same location, we finally have a home that truly feels like a sacred representation of our relationship and our lives...

I have convincing tendencies toward appreciation (91%), harmony (85%) and passion (80%) where i'm exactly in the middle on Freedom and Devotion (50%) ... which totally makes sense. So this means I should focus this week on Possibility, Truth, and Partnership. Kinda scary but exciting!

@Ahmad Ignite Have you taken the quiz at https://www.relationshipdynamics.com yet?

My primary and secondary needs are Acceptance and Kindness. If I imagine them to be separate entities that I might have a dialog with, here's what they might say... Q: What do you want? A: To create the most loving environment possible for all living things. Q: How do you feel when you are acknowledged? A: I feel like I have the power to heal the world when I'm acknowledged Q: How do you feel when you are ignored? A: I feel sad that those who ignore me are missing out on seeing the true nature of their own beauty and the goodness that surrounds them I feel like the part of me that has these needs is the most 'spiritual' part that is connected to the true nature of all things. The part of me that can meet this need is the part of me that is devoted to be the best me I can be and devoted to my partner and loving her the best way I can.

@Ahmad Ignite Needs are vulnerable, because they point to the parts of us that are least developed and aren't able to be fully interdependent (yet). It is healthy to honor our needs, even as we recognize that we might not continue to need them as we develop, grow more robust, and self-source the things that we currently rely on needs to supply for us.

The biggest doubts and fears in my profile are: "I'll be unfairly judged or accused" and "No one will care about my feelings" These do resonate with me. When I feel triggered or low resource, I can hear my inner voice say almost exactly these words... "This is unfair" or "I guess my feelings don't matter" etc. A larger part of me knows that this isn't really the Truth. But the smaller part of me in that moment does feel that way. I think it might be the excuse I'm using to collapse rather than speak up. When I don't know how to speak what's true for me without escalating conflict or making the dynamic worse, I tend to collapse. My path is to learn how to say what is true for me when I'm triggered without ignoring the truth of what my partner is saying, so that I can help find an integrated perspective that honors my feelings, feels fair, but also lets in the impact my own choices and behaviors.

@Ahmad Ignite Hi Ahmad! I'm so glad you are focusing on your relationship dynamics with your children! Parent/child relationships can be so complex, but so rewarding. Post any questions you might have :)