Hi, I'm Bridget from New Zealand, until six months ago, my 17-year-old son and I were in North Carolina, after doing the right thing and geographically living closer to my ex-husband and his family I decided it was time to come home to give my son a different perspective and country to live in. We have been back to New Zealand a few times, and he always loved it here and always said he wanted to live here. So we talked it through for a few months before making the move. We are settling in and I do love being home again after not being here for 20+ years. My son is attending a local high school and has friends he hangs out with at school, and we have been looking for a part-time job for him. The reverse culture shock has been quite real though. And I have spent a few sleepless nights, wondering if I messed up my kids life. Overall, he is grateful to be here, but misses his friends, his car and the life he had in NC. His father is still in the US, they talk daily. And he continues to make all sorts of promises about gifts and money and trips that always fall through, - which is never his fault - and I get to deal with the fallout. I understand my sons intense disappointment, and try to let him vent and be a safe place for him to feel his emotions, but sometimes it feels so unfair and I find it really difficult to not also get involved in the overwhelm. My son will be 18 soon, and trying to be a steady presence to guide him to a productive next step in his educational journey is quite challenging. Any advice and support would be welcome.