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Irritated by the "Needy"
Good morning brothers. I wanted to share how my last Friday morning went. For a little background, I work with my family as a part owner of our construction company. My Mom, Dad and brother are all involved so you can say it is quite intimate, and my wife an I are expecting our first child (girl) Mid-March. Anyways, my brother and I are the second generation of the company and I feel like I am in a new phase of my career journey. I am 28 years old, and have been working full time, since graduating college, for 6 years. I feel prepared for the technical work. I feel like I know how to handle job related situations... BUT I really found that I struggle with other issues that have been arising. I titled this 'Irritated by the "Needy"' because of the irony, but I'll get to that. So Friday comes along and things just started poorly. A woman in the office was highly offended that we didn't invite her to a meeting, another employee was texting me to see when his raise was going to show on his paycheck, and I had committed to speaking at a lunch with college students that day. Plus, there's always the day-to-day tasks I need to complete. I felt extremely overwhelmed, irritated, and "hot" because everything was already in motion. There was a reason we didn't include the woman in the meeting even though it slightly connected to some things she had been working on. We had given the raise to the guy, but payroll is delayed so it won't show up until this Friday's check. I had a moment of desire to be understood that I am working in the background to make these things happen for others, and I wanted that to be reciprocated. This is when I thought to myself "How am I doing to deal with my daughter if I am getting this worked up with adults?" I was pissed off and the word "needy" kept coming to mind. Just for me to take a deep breath and realize that "needy" is probably about to rock my world starting in March.
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Thanks for the input Ben. I am still trying to figure out what the root of it was. Mostly just communication lapses with all the parties involved. As an owner, you are obviously tied to many and if I fail to communicate properly or if I am misheard or not acted on by other partners or Payroll then it affects the employees. I think I would not got so bothered if I didn't care what other people thought or "wore their emotions" (that's a weakness of mine). It's something I became very aware of last year and have come to understand in myself, but still trying to get ahead of it is where I am failing.
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Billy Alten
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I’m Billy. I’m 28 and from the SF Bay Area. I got married in September and am going to be a dad in March. Talking through these big steps is important

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