Are they all the same thing? --- A mother is sitting at the table with her son doing homework and the son gets stuck on a math problem. They both know that mom is bad with math, so he grabs a calculator. But she see's this as cheating. She says, "put it down, you're not even trying." Now there's tension in the room. Not because using a calculator is cheating...a calculator is just a tool. Every professional uses tools. But the mom has made an assumption. Do you think this assumption is based on faith or fear? Does she have faith that her son will figure it out on his own? Or does she fear that he won't learn how to think? What do you think? How does faith & fear effect parenting?

How will your kid remember you? This is how I remember my dad... About 30 years ago, on a warm Summer night. My dad, my middle brother, and myself were sitting on the back steps looking up at the stars. My dad started telling us a story. Now I don't know about you...but I love stories So I got into it! Until this day, I don't remember what the story was about but I do remember my imagination taking over. As I got immersed in the story, I let out a sigh of relaxation. (cue the magical dreamy sound effects you hear in cartoons when someone starts telling a story) "Siiiiighhhhh" I was in a dream state, just imagining myself in the story. But my dream quickly turned into a nightmare...when it was interrupted with: IS MY STORY BORING YOU!!! GO TAKE YOUR A$$ IN THE HOUSE THEN!" Instantly, I felt my eyes burn as they filled with salt water. Sad and confused, I wondered why my dad cussed at me like a stranger in the streets. I knew from experience, that trying to explain myself was pointless...but I tried anyway. And of course, per usual, I was met with "I DON'T WANNA HEAR THAT S#IT! GET OUT OF MY FACE!" I could feel them watching me as I walked slowly up the steps with shame. I took my time on purpose. Savoring the moment. Because I knew even as a little kid...I would remember this misunderstanding... FOREVER. Sure, I always forgave my dad for cussing me out over the years. Because I know he also had a rough childhood. This was a wound that eventually healed...but scars last forever. You ever wonder how your kids will remember you? Do you want to be the most positive influence in their lives? I want to support as many parents as I can to understand their child and make happy memories... instead of childhood wounds. If you want to be a better parent…and you’re not sure how...feel free to message me anytime. BTW: this picture is the house from the story.

There’s a moment most parents know. Screen time ends. The screen goes black. And your child completely loses it. Screaming. Crying. Kicking. And you’re standing there thinking, “Why are they acting like this over nothing?” I just released Episode 1 of a new short series that slows this moment down. Not to judge it. Not to shame you. But to understand what’s actually happening underneath it. Because what looks like defiance… might actually be pressure that was building long before the screen turned off. In this first episode, you’ll see: • Why screen time might not be the real problem • What survival mode actually means • The hidden pressure most parents miss Watch Episode 1 here: [EPS1 LINK] If it helps you see your child differently, I also created a free guide called “8 Signs Your Child Is in Survival Mode.” It simply helps you notice what’s happening sooner, so you don’t have to figure it out in the middle of a meltdown. You can download it here: [8 Signs PDF Link] The guide is optional. Start with the video. Slow the moment down. And see what changes. Talk to you soon, Devin Trent