Too often parents are willing to die on the hill of being right vs. paying attention to getting it right. "It" can be anything that causes one to take a stand on an issue that is important to them. In moments where we won't let go of our "way", we have unknowingly chosen an issue over a relationship. So here is my question: Is it worth the price we pay? One of the hallmarks of young adulthood is the journey into becoming. It is a time of exploration of themselves - who they are, who they want to be, what they believe, what they are good at, etc. They will examine the values with which they were raised and take them for a walk to see if they are theirs to keep. They need the freedom to move through this season without fear or judgment from those who brought them here so they can get to the next season of their lives. Parents who have to be right are in a dangerous place. If they get worked up over others thinking they are wrong, they are letting their value be dictated by the opinion of others vs. resting in knowing their value is not up for negotiation. I would challenge you to take some time on why being right may be important to you. Think about whether this issue has played a part in your relationship with your kids.

It is very easy for us to lose sight on what really matters. One of the challenges for us is the familiarity we have with each other. It is easy to take things for granted - habits, traditions, beliefs, etc. - because we have history. You often see that when a child marries or dates someone who sees things through a totally different lens. It is only then that we realize that "our normal" may not be everyone else's normal. The focus we need to prioritize is the relationship and not the issues that so often divide us. In a world of differences, it is easy for people to perceive them as a threat instead of an opportunity. We may not understand how our children shifted or switched in their thinking or beliefs and I know that is challenging on many levels. However, the question is this: Can you love your children whether you understand them or not? I can tell you that your kids know the depth of your love and acceptance so it is important for you to be honest with yourself first before you try to convince them that above all they matter most. We don't have to agree with their thinking to love them. What we do need to recognize is the importance of being laser focused that we love them purely because they are worthy of it. When they were little they would walk in the room and we would smile simply because they existed. Is that how you love your adult children today? Think about it.

I see some slides introduced during the presentation of modules 1 and 1.2. Are these slides available to us together with the talk?

I was reviewing the introductory video and like you said in one of the slides, my daughters reveal more to their friends or friends' parents more than they tell me. How come, I can discuss, express opinions, add input or even making recommendations when I am with other adult peers, but I had to become more and more guarded and avoiding any input when I am with my daughters. Otherwise, they become resentful or extremely annoyed. At this point our conversations are very bland and unsatisfactory from my point of view. I place a lot of hope on this course. 🌈

Hi Friends, Last week I got so excited about the class I forgot to record it so I decided I would do a highlight reel for those of you who are new or who were unable to be with us. I hope this gives you a taste of the content I cover and feel free to bring any questions you may have to the call. Don't feel rushed or hurried because I want you to take this journey at your pace. Each week I will discuss several areas of the curriculum but I am open to questions regardless of where you are on your parenting path. Enjoy!