A lot of people think they struggle with visibility because they lack confidence - but that's not it. I see so many people struggling with this who appear and often are brilliantly confident, outgoing and successful. For many people, being seen has felt emotionally unsafe for a very long time. - Maybe you were judged when you spoke up, at school, at work, online or at home. - Or maybe you were criticised for getting something wrong. - Made to feel “too much”, too sensitive, too loud, too emotional. - Maybe you learned early on that it was safer to stay quiet, stay agreeable, not draw attention to yourself. - Maybe you were physically attacked for doing nothing at all. School environments, family dynamics, social groups, and workplaces — all of these experiences shape the nervous system. So years later, even posting online, speaking publicly, sharing your work, sending a message, or expressing an opinion can trigger the same protective response in the body. Not because you’re weak. Not because you’re incapable. But because some part of you learned: “Being visible might not be safe for me.” This is why logic alone often doesn’t shift it. You can know you “should” be able to do this. You know that you’re capable. And yet the body reacts so strongly it keeps you stuck, frozen, procrastinating, turning down opportunities - so you avoid it, overthink it, or disappear afterwards. That is your body's way of protecting you. It doesn't know that this could be safe for you. Tomorrow we're going to learn some nervous system tools — so that the next time you feel those familiar thoughts and reactions arise, you have a toolkit to use in real time. I wish I'd had this in my previous career. So many moments would have been so much easier to navigate. I’d love to know — what activates you most?

Hi everyone - I hope you're having a good week. I'll be done with jury service this week - phew 😅 - and looking forward to being back. I'm curious... is there a time that suits you best for our group session next week?

Hey everyone - hope you're doing well. I'm thinking about the session we have next week, maybe you'd like to start pondering it too...? If so - take a moment to notice those moments during your day when this might kick in. Do any of these sound familiar? - I should be doing more - I should know more by now - I should be further along - I should know better - I should be doing something else instead of this. These thoughts often come with a critical voice—the part that believes pressure and self-judgement will keep you on track but in reality, it tends to create tension, procrastination, and a feeling of never quite being enough - and ultimately keeps us stuck. Gently notice this week > - When do you notice this voice the most? (e.g., work, rest, growth, decision-making) - What triggers it? (comparison, deadlines, expectations, uncertainty) - How does it make you feel emotionally? - Where do you notice it in your body? (tight chest, heavy shoulders, knot in the stomach, shallow breathing) - What action does it lead to? (procrastination, overworking, avoidance, self-doubt) There’s nothing to fix right now—just notice. Write it down if you like, or bring a moment of awareness to it. With no judgment, just allow it to be there. Share below or bring your observations to the session, we’ll tap through them together. Looking forward to seeing you all again!