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32 contributions to AVA Collective
Day 4: The Hidden Pay-OFF
For three days you've found the belief, the hiding place, the voice. Today the camera turns around. Because you're not just stuck. You're getting something out of being stuck. There's a payoff. Nothing survives this long in you without paying rent. That's today. Not "what's wrong with me," but what am I quietly getting from staying exactly here? Here's where most people go wrong: they give the acceptable answer. "I'm being responsible." "I'm just being realistic." Noble words. Also a costume. The real payoff is never noble. It's the slightly embarrassing one: as long as I don't fully try, I never find out I'm not enough. As long as I say I'll get to it, I get the credit for intending without the risk of doing. That's the one I want. The uncomfortable truth, not the acceptable one. So watch for the moment you reach for the noble word, and ask what it's protecting you from. And when AVA asks what this is costing you, answer honestly. Not the tidy cost. The real one. Then post your Day 4 line here. One sentence, start it with "Day 4." Name what staying stuck has been quietly paying you. A payoff only runs while it's in the dark. Said out loud where we can see it, it can't quietly reset tomorrow. Whatever you're not changing, you are choosing. Today you find out what you've been choosing it for.
Day 4: The Hidden Pay-OFF
1 like • Aug 20
Day 4. Name what staying stuck has been quietly paying you? It has quietly paying me "Failure". Therefor working harder has been my way of trying to prove I can do this. Working around problems or just simply ignore them. Uncertainty is making me fiddling around with things that is not productive.
Day 3: Whose Voice is it?
By now you've caught a belief and you've spotted where it hides. Today we go after the thing underneath both: whose voice is it, really? And Some of you might have touched on this already! While doing today, remember this: That belief running you on autopilot, you weren't born with it. Somewhere, someone said something, or showed you something, or made you feel something, and a younger version of you drew a conclusion to stay safe. Then that conclusion went quiet and started running the show without your permission. 👉Day 3 is where you find out where it actually came from, because a belief you can trace is a belief you can finally question.
Day 3: Whose Voice is it?
1 like • Aug 19
The voice that i hear when i want to quit or play small is my own telling me "why do keep on doing this when you do not get any results". Where do i i get that negativity from i do not know because i am actually a very positive person.
0 likes • Aug 20
@Surina Joubert Thank you. i will take this to AVA.
Day 2: Where are you Hiding
Yesterday you caught the belief. Today you catch the hiding place it built, because every belief has one, somewhere you go to feel safe. The catch: hiding never looks like hiding. It looks like over-preparing, staying busy, researching one more thing, helping everyone else first, waiting until you feel ready. It looks productive. That's why it works. LOOK OUT FOR SOMETHING LOOKING LIKE: You avoid something, then instantly reach for a good reason. That reason is the disguise. The speed of the excuse is how you know. Ask yourself: what am I always getting ready for but never quite doing? The honest answer, the one that makes you want to close the laptop, is the real one. Your Day 2 line: Name the hiding place in one sentence. The behaviour, not the belief. Post it below. Not fixing it today. Just catching it. Where are you hiding?
Day 2: Where are you Hiding
1 like • Aug 18
My hiding place is not asking for help because i am afraid that if i do and i still cannot get it right i will be a failure. I put so much reliance on my business and it is so important for me to be successful that fear may keep me from succeeding.
Today we start, together.
If you don't have AVA: Go to the Classroom and start at the top. Only do day 1. Honestly force yourself to go past the obvious. Write down what comes to your mind. Allow it to be messy. When you would have done it with AVA, you literally dump it on her. Now dump it on paper, for you to look at at a glance. Read what you wrote again, ask follow-up questions, and answer your 3 questions under Day 1 and formulate your own one line. If you do have AVA, talk to her like you are having your last say, there might be something she catch that you never would have connected. Simply type/say: Pattern Interrupt, and she'll know what to do next. Only do day 1! Day 1 is one line: Catch the belief that's been running you on autopilot. Here's what to look for. Not a big dramatic realisation. The opposite. Watch for the quiet rule you never question, the "that's just how I am," the thing you do automatically to stay safe, keep the peace, stay ahead, prove yourself. It won't feel like a belief. It'll feel like a fact. That's exactly how you know you've found it. The ones that feel most obviously true are the ones worth catching. Your one job today: name it in a single sentence and post it here. Just the belief. Don't fix it, don't solve it, don't explain it away. Catching it is the whole task. Then watch what you do next. The moment you name it, part of you will want to defend it or rush past it. That flinch is the pattern protecting itself. Notice that too. Post your Day 1 line below. One sentence. We start now.
Today we start, together.
3 likes • Aug 17
Day 1 The discomfort of not knowing whether what i am doing is correct and then I procrastinate.
2 likes • Aug 15
Thank you Surina, I got through my onboarding and is now on AVA 2.0. Worked trough all the questions and will start on Monday.
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Hi I am Anna Adriana Kruger. (My new FB profile is Adriana Kruger) My goal is helping woman aged 45+ reinvent life, build confidence & income online.

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