So much packed into this sentence. I grew up in an environment where nothing I did was right and everything was wrong. I had no control over anything. I became conditioned to suffering; it was normal for me. I was "punished" for pretty much everything. And when there was no one else there to punish me, I would punish myself. It took a long time to see the undercurrent of this sentence. When I was in a place of fear and felt I had no control, I would seek comfort/control in alcohol, drugs, sexual promiscuity, comfort food...etc, etc. In this way I was subconsciously trying to take control but what was really happening was that I was reverting to the conditioning of suffering and punishing myself within the illusion of taking control, and the cycle would continue for many years. When "things" would seemingly go wrong "out there", I would subconsciously think that I had done something wrong even though it had nothing to do with me and the self-sabotage would continue. I eventually came to a point where I knew if this continued it would be the end of me. At about the same time 12 years ago, Spirit came knocking LOUDLY and my life started to dramatically shift. Ayahuasca came calling, teachers, masters and Gurus started to arrive seemingly out of nowhere and I began to unravel the knots of the past, clear old and worn out patterns and energies of unworthiness and the self-blame that led to the self-sabotage. Along the way I've learned that "life" is not something that you go get or control. It is to be received by trusting in Spirit, the Divine, the Universe; God; whatever you call it. When we resist and try to control life, it is messy, it's hard, it's painful; but when we drop into sweet surrender, it is the most beautiful, magical and mystical way to be.