Kingdom parents, Every year on May 31st, we celebrate the Everything Parent Award in honor of Frances Marie Williams. This is not just another post or something we scroll past. This is a movement. My grandmother, Frances Marie Williams, raised me. She was my everything. She did everything, even when it was hard, even when nobody saw it, even when she had every reason to give up. And when I look at this community, I see her in so many of you. Parents who are tired but still show up, healing while raising others, carrying a past and still pushing forward, parents who don’t have it easy but refuse to quit. So on May 31st, we honor that. We honor you. This is how we’re showing up. You wake up intentional. Not rushing, not overwhelmed, not pouring into everyone else first. You get dressed, do your hair, get your nails done, put on something that makes you feel good. You take yourself out, whether it’s to eat, to sit in peace, or just to enjoy your own presence. You take pictures, real ones, proud ones, the kind that say “I made it through some things.” I will be sending out certificates to every parent who signs up, because you deserve to be recognized. Then we show the world. You post your pictures, you tag the community, you send them to me, and I’m going to share them so the world can see what strength really looks like, what resilience looks like, what “everything” really looks like. We celebrate everything else in this world. Now it’s time to celebrate ourselves. If you’re joining this movement, drop your name below. This is your moment. Don’t sit this one out. Because May 31st belongs to the parents who never gave up. In honor of Frances Marie Williams, let’s show the world what “everything” really looks like.

When was the last time you sat down… and just checked on YOU? Not your kids....Not your responsibilities......Not what needs to get done next. You...... Because a lot of you are moving all day…handling everything…showing up for everybody…And ignoring yourself. You’ll notice when your child is off immediately. But when YOU are off?You push through it. You feel overwhelmed…and keep going. You feel irritated…and keep going. You feel drained…and keep going. And then you wonder why Your patience is short....Your reactions are quick...Your mind feels all over the place It’s because you’re not checking in. Mental health is not just about “fixing problems.” It’s about awareness. How am I feeling right now? What do I need right now? Am I overwhelmed… or just ignoring it? Because if you don’t slow down long enough to notice…it’s going to come out somewhere. In your tone. In your Reaction. In how you show up in your home. And your children will feel it…even if you don’t say a word. So today, pause. Even if it’s for a few minutes. Check in with yourself. Not to judge yourself...Just to be aware. Because you can’t lead your home well…if you’re disconnected from yourself. Let’s talk: When was the last time you actually checked in with YOU?

You think you’re just angry… But it’s deeper than that. Because your child didn’t just make you mad. They touched something. That tone they used, That defiance, That ignoring you It hit a place in you that was already sensitive. And now your reaction is bigger than the moment. You're yelling, snapping, feeling like you’re about to explode That’s not just about what happened today. That’s unprocessed emotion. Stuff you never dealt with. Stuff you pushed down. Stuff you told yourself like “I’m over it.”“It doesn’t bother me anymore.” But it’s still there. So now your child does something small… And it pulls up something big. And now you’re not just responding to your child… You’re responding to your past. That’s why it feels so intense. That’s why it feels so quick. That’s why after it’s over… You feel bad. Because a part of you knows that wasn’t just about them. You’re not a bad parent. But you are a parent who has some things you haven’t processed yet. And if you don’t deal with it… It will keep showing up in your parenting. In your tone...In your patience...In your reactions So what do we do? 1. Start noticing your triggers What sets you off fast? DisrespectIgnoring youNoise That’s a clue. 2. Be honest about the root Ask yourself what does this remind me of? Because it’s usually not new… It’s familiar. 3. Slow down your response You don’t have to react immediately. Pause. Breathe. Then respond with intention. 4. Do the work outside the moment Your healing does not happen in the middle of discipline. It happens In prayer....In reflection...In counseling if needed...In honest conversations with yourself Because your child should not have to carry… What you never healed from. And hear me… God doesn’t just want to use you as a parent… He wants to heal you as a person.

Let’s get practical. Because a lot of people hear “renew your mind” But nobody really explains HOW. So what happens? You wake up… And the SAME thoughts come back. The same frustration. The same triggers. The same mindset. And now you’re trying to parent… from a mind that was never reset. So let’s break this down simple. 🔥 1. Catch the thought You cannot change what you don’t notice. When your child does something and your mind says: “I’m overwhelmed” “I can’t do this” “they’re too much” STOP. Catch it. 🔥 2. Check the thought Ask yourself: “Is this helping me lead right now?”Because just because you FEEL it…doesn’t mean you should FOLLOW it. 🔥 3. Replace the thought You don’t just remove it… you replace it. Instead of “I can’t do this” You say “God gave me this child, so I CAN do this.” Instead of “They’re too much” You say “I just need a better system.” Instead of “I’m overwhelmed” You say “I need a reset, not a breakdown.” 🔥 4. Move differently Because real change is not just thinking…it’s ACTION. You don’t just say “I’m going to be patient.” You lower your tone You shorten your words If you don’t control your thoughts…your thoughts will control your home. Because how you THINK…is how you respond. And how you respond… is how your home is built. So no… this isn’t about being perfect.This is about being intentional with your thoughts, your words and your actions Because your children don’t just need correction… they need a parent who is mentally disciplined. Let’s talk: What is ONE thought you struggle with daily as a parent?

Some of you are not just tired…you’re bound. Bound to your past. Bound to what happened to you. Bound to old pain, old labels, old versions of yourself. And you’re still showing up every day…parenting…working…functioning… But internally?.......... you’re still in it. This reminds me of Book of John 11… When Lazarus was in the tomb. Dead.Wrapped.Buried. And Jesus stood there and said “Lazarus, come forth.” Lazarus was already alive when he came out…...but he was still wrapped. And that’s where a lot of parents are. You’re alive. You love God. You’re showing up. But you’re still wrapped in trauma wrapped in guilt wrapped in shame wrapped in what happened to you So even though you’re out… you’re not FREE..... And then Jesus said something amazing He said “Loose him, and let him go.” That means: The coming out was one step…But the UNWRAPPING was another. So Kingdom Parents..........What are you still wrapped in? Because you can’t fully show up for your children… while you’re still bound to your past. This week isn’t just about mental health…it’s about FREEDOM. And I’m calling you out of it. Not gently. Not when you “feel ready.” NOW. Come out of the guilt. Come out of the shame. Come out of the identity that says “this is just who I am.” Because you’re not who you were. And your children don’t need a perfect parent… they need a FREE one. If you’re ready to come out of it… Comment: “I’m coming out.”