Good morning, Kingdom parents... Welcome to Home Reset week. All week long, I am going to teach you raw. Real talk about what it actually takes to reset your home. Not theory. The stuff nobody handed us growing up. And we start here. Not with your children. With your mind. Because the chaos in your home is not just coming from your kids. Half of it is coming from the panic running in your own head. Romans 12:2 says, "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind." Let me teach it straight first. Paul was writing to believers in Rome, surrounded by a culture that was shaping how they thought, how they reacted, how they lived. He told them: stop copying the world's patterns. Let God transform you by changing how you think. The renewing of the mind was the doorway to a transformed life. Not trying harder. Thinking different. You cannot parent from peace when your mind is running on panic. The yelling. The shutting down. The snapping over small things. That is not who you are. That is an unrenewed mind reacting the only way it was ever taught. Parents say "This is just how I am. I am just a yeller. I am just impatient." No, Kingdom parent. That is a pattern you learned. And patterns can be unlearned when your mind gets renewed. The next time you feel the rage rising, pause for ten seconds. Just ten. Breathe. And whisper, "God, renew my mind right now." That is it. Ten seconds between the trigger and your response. That tiny pause is where the reset begins. Father, renew my mind today. When the panic rises, slow me down. Teach me to respond from Your peace and not my past. In Jesus Name, Amen. P.S. Kingdom parents... the pause will help you today, but the full reset, the words to say in the hard moments, the structure your home is missing, the whole system... that is what I teach inside my Kingdom Home Reset class. Live on Zoom, Friday November 20, 11 AM or 7 PM ET. For $30 I hand you the actual tools to reset your home in 30 days. Grab your seat here: https://www.thejourneytofindgod.com/event-details/kingdom-home-reset-live 🧡

I need to start this series with something that might make you uncomfortable. You are allowed to be angry at God. I know that felt wrong to read. Because we were taught that anger toward God is disrespectful. That it is ungrateful. That good Christians do not feel that way. That if you love God you trust God and if you trust God you do not question God and if you do not question God you certainly do not get ANGRY at Him. So we buried it, smiled through it, worshipped through it. We said "God is good all the time" through it. We posted scriptures about trusting His plan while privately we were furious about His timing. And the anger did not go away. It just went underground. And underground anger does not disappear. It just finds other places to come out. It comes out in how you parent. It comes out in how you treat the people closest to you. It comes out in the way you hold God at arm's length even while you are going to church every Sunday. It comes out in the quiet moments when nobody is watching and you realize you have not really talked to God likeeeee really talked to Him in a long time. Because somewhere along the way something happened. And you never said anything about it. Psalm 22:1. David writes -- My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from my cries of anguish? That is not polished. That is not a man who has it together spiritually. That is a man who is hurting and confused and feeling completely abandoned by the God he has spent his whole life serving. And God did not strike him down for it. He put it in the Bible. He preserved it for thousands of years so that you would read it today and realize if David could say that, I can say what I actually feel too. Psalm 13:1 -- How long Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me? Jeremiah 20:7 -- You deceived me Lord and I was deceived. Job 30:20 -- I cry out to you God but you do not answer. These are not the words of faithless people.

Monday I asked you to name the anger. And you did. Some of you dropped things in the comments that you have never said out loud to anyone. And I want you to know I read every single one. And I sat with every single one. And none of it surprised God. Today we go one layer deeper. Because anger is never the root. Anger is what grows on top of the root. And the root is always the hurt. Think about it this way. When a child throws a tantrum it is almost never actually about the toy that got taken or the snack they did not get. It is about something that happened before that moment. Something that made them feel unsafe or unseen or out of control. The toy was just the thing that cracked it open. We are the same way as adults. The anger you feel toward God is almost never really about the thing on the surface. It is about something that happened that made you feel like He was not there. That He did not care. That He saw what was happening and did not move. That you did everything right and it still went wrong anyway. That you trusted Him and it still fell apart. That is the hurt underneath the anger. And until we name THAT the real thing, the specific thing we will keep carrying it without ever actually healing from it. So today I want to go somewhere most people never go in their prayer life. Not the general. The specific. Not "God I have been hurt." But God. Here is the exact moment. Here is the exact thing. Here is what happened and here is what I needed from You that I did not feel like I received. That level of honesty is terrifying for most believers. Because we have been taught that naming our pain specifically is the same as accusing God. But it is not. It is the same thing the disciples did when they woke Jesus up in the middle of the storm and said do you not care that we are drowning? They named the specific fear. The specific moment. The specific feeling that God had checked out on them. And Jesus did not rebuke them for being honest. He calmed the storm. And then He asked them why they were afraid.

Next week we are starting something I have been sitting on for a while. A three week free series right here in the community. And I am warning you now this one is going to go places most people are not willing to go. But I believe this community is ready. Here is what we are doing. WEEK ONE -- GET IT OUT. We are talking about the anger you have toward God that you have never said out loud. The hurt you have been carrying quietly because it did not feel okay to admit it. The prayers that felt like they went nowhere. The season that broke something in you. The moment you smiled in church while something inside you was screaming. We are taking the mask off. Not to be disrespectful to God. But because He already knows. And He would rather have your honest anger than your polished performance. Week one is about getting it out. Acknowledging that it exists. Saying the thing you have been afraid to say. WEEK TWO -- YOU NEVER HAD TO EARN IT. This is the week that is going to undo some of you. Because a lot of us have been living like God's love is conditional. Like if we do enough, pray enough, get it together enough then He will show up for us. But that was never the deal. He did not save you because you were qualified. He did not call you because you had it together. He did not choose you because you could perform. He did it because He loved you. No quid pro quo. No fine print. No "if you do this then I do that." Just love. Before you deserved it. Before you earned it. Before you even wanted it. WEEK THREE -- COME OUT OF AGREEMENT. This is where we do the work. Because once you have gotten honest with God and received His love without conditions you have to break agreement with every pattern, every lie, every cycle that was built on the belief that you were not enough. The way you parent from fear instead of love. The way you shrink when God is calling you to step up. The way you keep repeating what you swore you would never repeat. Week three is about coming out of agreement with all of it.

I want to talk about a name of God that most people only use when things are going well. El Shaddai. In Hebrew it means God Almighty. God of the mountain. The all-sufficient one. The one who is more than enough. We shout it in worship. We put it on shirts. We quote it when we get the promotion, when the prayer gets answered, when the breakthrough finally comes. But El Shaddai was first spoken in a valley. Abraham was old. Sarah was barren. The promise had been spoken years ago and nothing had happened. No child. No nation. No evidence that anything God said was going to come to pass. Just two aging people holding a promise that looked increasingly impossible. And that is exactly where God shows up and says I am El Shaddai. I am enough for this. Not enough for the easy part. Enough for the impossible part. I want to talk to the parent who is in a valley right now. Not a valley of their own making necessarily. Just a season where the gap between what God promised and what you can see feels impossibly wide. Where you are doing everything right and things are still hard. Where you are faithful and the breakthrough has not come yet. Where your child is struggling and you have prayed and prayed and the mountain has not moved. El Shaddai does not only show up on the mountain. He is the God of the valley too. The God of the in-between. The God of the not yet. The God who meets you in the middle of the waiting and says I am still more than enough for this moment even though it does not look like it yet. Your child is watching how you handle the valley. Not the mountain... the valley. They are watching whether your faith holds when the answer does not come quickly. Whether you still praise when it costs you something. Whether God is real to you only when things are good or whether He is real to you in the ordinary, hard, unglamorous middle. That lesson... faithfulness in the valley cannot be taught in a classroom or a Sunday school lesson. It can only be caught. From watching you.